Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader who posts as “amille2.”
When my boyfriend……….or should I say the man I thought was my boyfriend………..walked out the door a couple of days ago, I told him I felt like I had been sucker punched. He replied, “No, you haven’t” and shut the door.
Just two days before that, I read his wife/girlfriend?’s grandmother’s obituary whereby he was listed as the husband/significant other.
Anyone who has ever been on the receiving end of disordered communication knows that it can produce an array of madness and negativity. That’s the point, after all. But, the more experience we have with it, the more we learn that it is all the same. The players may change, but the messages remain identical. Identifying the fact that the correspondence is, in fact, disordered is the first step to handling it positively. The next is to learn to read between the lines of the written word vomit to understand the actual meaning. When we can, it’s liberating.
Michael J. McNearney (Spokane County Sheriff’s Office)
Michael J. McNearney Jr. met women on the Plenty of Fish dating site and in bars, then convinced them to spend money on him, used their credit cards for unauthorized transactions and raped them, according to recent testimony in a Kootenai County, Idaho, courtroom.
As he was doing this, he falsely claimed to be a Marine.
McNearney will stand trial in Idaho District Court. A trial date has not yet been set.
If you’re reading Lovefraud, it’s probably because you suspect that someone in your life is a sociopath.
This person’s behavior has baffled you how can he lie so prolifically? How can she be so cold? How can anyone behave so horribly and then act as if nothing happened?
So you went looking on the Internet for answers. You’ve plugged this person’s upsetting behavior into your favorite search engine and come across a list of traits such as Lovefraud’s Key Symptoms of a Sociopath. Check, check, check the person exhibits all or most of them.
Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we’ll call “Caroltta.”
I am 72 ”¦ was married 12/60 ”¦ found out in 1/14 my husband, a pastor for 45 yrs., committed adultery @ every pastorate. In fact, he says he has no idea how many x’s & does not remember all the women.
There was incest involved in his promiscuous life. He considered divorce for many of his women, but knew he could not preach after that, so his last girlfriend convinced him to murder me & they had a plan which did not work out because I told him I was retiring & he could come with me or not.
Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call “Cory.”
It started in 2013. I was a semi-successful, growing recording artist and singer. I just got full custody of my first daughter I was touring. Doing radio interviews. Life was exciting and full of enchantment.
I became involved with a young woman I had been talking to since high school on and off. She had always seemed sweet. And a great mother as she had 2 boys of her own.
Dr. Rafael Azulay, a practicing internist in Pembroke Pines, Florida, was arrested last week for domestic violence. He allegedly punched his girlfriend in the face, and kicked her in the face and stomach, in the home they shared.
According to Local10.com, the woman was bleeding when deputies arrived, but Azulay claimed he didn’t touch her.
A longtime friend of the victim said Azulay humiliated the woman by rubbing cat food and dirt into her face. But the woman was afraid to leave.