Robert Lawson Carnochan (Mohave County Sheriff’s Office)
Nancy Rae Hartz, a 72-year-old widow from Arizona, sold her home, packed her belongings and drove off into the sunset with her new romantic partner in June 2015. She was never seen again.
Verna Clayton of Dolan Springs Arizona was last seen in June 2008. Neva Jane Lindley was last seen in November 2011.
All three women met the same man online, Robert Lawson Carnochan, 69. Authorities arrested him. At the time, he was living with another woman in Yucca, Arizona, under a stolen identity. He is being questioned about the missing woman.
Perhaps you now know that you’re involved with a sociopath or other disordered individual. You’ve been Googling “sociopath” “psychopath” and “narcissist” like crazy, and found that a lot of what you read matches the behavior that you see.
So now what? What do you do?
That’s what I will explain in Part 3 of the Lovefraud Recovery Series. The webinar takes place Thursday, June 30, at 8 pm Eastern time.
Many people both men and women have told me that sex with a sociopath is the best they ever had. It was exciting, wild and plentiful. They never felt so desired.
Well, there are reasons for this.
First of all, both male and female sociopaths are hardwired for sex. They crave excitement and stimulation. They have high levels of testosterone, which makes them aggressively pursue sex. They start young and engage frequently. They have a lot of desire, a lot of energy and a lot of practice.
So sex with a sociopath is out of this world at least in the beginning of an involvement. But there are serious downsides:
Editor’s note: The following article was written by the Lovefraud reader, “Jennifer in NYC.”
The New York Times OP-ED article, “What One Rape Cost Our Family” (Friday, June 24, 2016), by the California-based, freelance journalist, Laura Hilgers, chronicles the years of devastation her family faced after her daughter was raped by a fellow student while attending a college in Washington D.C. . A freshman at the time, her daughter, Willa, waited one year before she reported the crime. However, during this time she developed “…post-traumatic stress disorder, panic attacks, depression, and an an addiction to alcohol. And while she chose not to file criminal charges””out of fear of being traumatized again””she struggled so much after the attack that ultimately she had to leave school.”
In the wake of the Gay Pride Month massacre of 49 people gathered at the Pulse nightclub in Orlando, the world has taken notice of the violence and threats of violence lesbian gay, bisexual, and transgender people face on a regular basis.
What’s less visible is that the patterns of oppression we face in the broader society sometimes trickle down into our most intimate relationships.
Lesbian and gay people need to be able to turn to partners for safety, support, care, and kindness. This is especially important as we face discrimination and invalidation in the broader culture.