Archive for June, 2016

With A Sociopath, It Can All Change So Fast!

Husband Liar Sociopath

By O.N. Ward

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 12: What Just Happened?

Paul and I arrived back in Minneapolis late on a Saturday and spent a leisurely Sunday together. Both of us needed to return to work on Monday morning. I had not worked the entire vacation or even checked in with the office. My co-workers and team leader knew I was on my honeymoon and that … Read more

Three women, all senior citizens, met the same man online and went missing

Robert Lawson Carnochan

Robert Lawson Carnochan (Mohave County Sheriff’s Office)

Nancy Rae Hartz, a 72-year-old widow from Arizona, sold her home, packed her belongings and drove off into the sunset with her new romantic partner in June 2015. She was never seen again.

Verna Clayton of Dolan Springs Arizona was last seen in June 2008. Neva Jane Lindley was last seen in November 2011.

All three women met the same man online, Robert Lawson Carnochan, 69. Authorities arrested him. At the time, he was living with another woman in Yucca, Arizona, under a stolen identity. He is being questioned about the missing woman.

Arizona authorities say 3 missing women met same man online, on

Link supplied by a Lovefraud reader.… Read more

Escaping the Sociopath and Rebuilding Your Life


Escaping the sociopathPerhaps you now know that you’re involved with a sociopath or other disordered individual. You’ve been Googling “sociopath” “psychopath” and “narcissist” like crazy, and found that a lot of what you read matches the behavior that you see.

So now what? What do you do?

That’s what I will explain in Part 3 of the Lovefraud Recovery Series. The webinar takes place Thursday, June 30, at 8 pm Eastern time.

Escaping the Sociopath and Rebuilding Your Life

Here is some of what I will explain:

  • What NOT to do when you learn of your partner’s betrayal
  • Do you fight or cut your losses and run?
  • Tips and strategies for lawsuits, divorce and child custody battles
  • What can
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7 reasons not to have sex with a sociopath


Young naked Man and woman in love are kissingMany people both men and women have told me that sex with a sociopath is the best they ever had. It was exciting, wild and plentiful. They never felt so desired.

Well, there are reasons for this.

First of all, both male and female sociopaths are hardwired for sex. They crave excitement and stimulation. They have high levels of testosterone, which makes them aggressively pursue sex. They start young and engage frequently. They have a lot of desire, a lot of energy and a lot of practice.

So sex with a sociopath is out of this world at least in the beginning of an involvement. But there are serious downsides:

  1. Sociopaths cheat

Sociopaths are promiscuous it’s one … Read more

The high cost of rape – in pain and dollars


Editor’s note: The following article was written by the Lovefraud reader, “Jennifer in NYC.”

The New York Times OP-ED article, “What One Rape Cost Our Family (Friday, June 24, 2016), by the California-based, freelance journalist, Laura Hilgers, chronicles the years of devastation her family faced after her daughter was raped by a fellow student while attending a college in Washington D.C. .  A freshman at the time, her daughter, Willa, waited one year before she reported the crime.  However, during this time she developed “…post-traumatic stress disorder, panic attacks, depression, and an an addiction to alcohol.  And while she chose not to file criminal chargesout of fear of being traumatized again—she struggled Read more

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Stepfather arrested in death of 11-year-old girl

Celina Cass

Celina Cass

Celina Cass, of Stewartstown, New Hampshire, vanished on July 26, 2011. Her body was found in the Connecticut River six days later.

Her stepfather, Wendell Noyes, was long suspected in the crime. He was just arrested on Monday, June 20, 2016.

I have to wonder what took so long?

Celina Cass: Arrest made in 2011 case of missing 11–year-old girl found murdered, on

Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader.

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Sociopaths: Masters Of Using Cognitive Dissonance


Husband Liar SociopathBy O.N. Ward

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 11: The Honeymooners

We spent our honeymoon hiking, horseback riding, wine tasting, and sleeping in. I had wanted to go on a particular hike, but we never did. Finally, I told Paul that I was concerned that we were leaving without going on the one hike to which I had so looked forward. Paul looked at me, incredulous. … Read more

Posted in: O.N. Ward, Uncategorized

Save on ‘The Wise Lesbian Guide to Getting Free From Crazy-Making Relationships’

Wise Lesbian GuideBy Amber Ault, Ph.D., MSW

In the wake of the Gay Pride Month massacre of 49 people gathered at the Pulse nightclub in Orlando, the world has taken notice of the violence and threats of violence lesbian gay, bisexual, and transgender people face on a regular basis.  

What’s less visible is that the patterns of oppression we face in the broader society sometimes trickle down into our most intimate relationships.  

Lesbian and gay people need to be able to turn to partners for safety, support, care, and kindness. This is especially important as we face discrimination and invalidation in the broader culture.

Unfortunately, for many people in same-sex relationships, home is not a haven but, instead, because of Read more

Woman, 22, who called her boss a ‘positive light’, charged with poisoning her

kaitlyn Conley

Kaitlyn Conley was charged with murdering her boss.

Mary Yoder, a chiropractor from Whitesboro, New York, died suddenly in July 2015.

The next day, her employee, Kaitlyn Conley, 23, wrote a Facebook post:

‘You truly were a positive light in the world and I’m so lucky and thankful our lives crossed paths.

‘There wasn’t a day I didn’t look forward to work with you. You taught me so much and had such a profound impact on my life.

‘Everyone appreciated your attention, stories, and laughter.

‘We will be remember you for your light, energy, and strength, and the best way I can think to honor your life is to emulate your genuine, cheerful, and kind spirit.’

Conley was … Read more

Posted in: Female sociopaths

6 reasons why sociopaths seem so romantic – but they’re all fake


Sociopathic seductionPeople who have been in a relationship with a sociopath frequently say that they were swept off their feet in a whirlwind romance. But what, exactly, does that mean?

Here are six strategies that sociopaths employ to make you fall for them hard and fast and why the romance is not at all what it seems to be.

  1. Sociopaths want to be with you, or in contact with you, all the time

They call for dates. They want to hang out. They book your calendar weeks in advance. They may go to great lengths to see you driving long distances or booking a flight. You may feel overwhelmed with the attention, and believe that your new romantic … Read more

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