Archive for July, 2016

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, offers FREE online chat support group Sunday Aug. 7

Mary Ann GlynnExperience the support of people who know! Join our free online live chat support group next Sunday night, August 7, 8 pm EDT at  Share your struggles and get feedback, support, and hope from others who get it.  The group is professionally run.  Here’s how to join:

At 8 pm come to the site and scroll down the home page to the Services section. Click on the highlighted “live chat support group,” and you will be brought to the chat room as a Guest#.

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Dr. Karin Huffer explains why the traumatized clients in court need the ADA


Therapists: If your client suffers anxiety, depression or PTSD, and must face the person who likely caused it in court, the federal Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) may help tremendously. Learn how to refer your client to court administration for accommodations that may improve his or her executive functionality during legal proceedings.

This course is presented by Dr. Karin Huffer. As a marriage and family therapist with over 30 years experience, Dr. Karin Huffer identified, in 1995, that extreme stress caused by our adversarial courts of law exacerbates health problems and can cause PTSD Read more

The Recovery Poem – ‘I could not care less’

Woman with arms raised at sunset on the beachEditor’s note: This poem of recovery was written by Lovefraud reader, Arpinsandie. (To clarify the first line, a “6th form pupil” is a British term roughly equivalent to a high school student.)

By Arpinsandie

You cheated on your first wife with a 6th form pupil and groomed pupils

You lost your family because of your behaviour

You blamed your wife

Your second wife found real love through your abhorrent lies anger rage and dominance

You blamed her

The 3rd – long term partner – Me

You tried to control destroy by lying cheating verbally assaulting bullying a classic case of narcissistic behaviour

I dumped you

You will blame me

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Tina Swithin, author of, presents ‘Understanding the language of a narcissist’ on Lovefraud CE


Tina Swithin will present a Lovefraud CE webinar on Aug. 9.

Lovefraud is very pleased to announce that Tina Swithin, author of the well-known website,, will be presenting an important Lovefraud CE webinar:

Understanding the Language of a Narcissist During a Divorce or Custody Battle
Tuesday, August 9, 8-9 pm ET
Recording subsequently available on demand

Tina knows from first-hand experience the madness anyone trying to divorce a narcissist encounters. She says:

Looking back, the red flags had been waving in the wind since our very first date. Those flags grew larger and more vibrant during our marriage. As it turns out, those same red flags that had been lining my path for years were dipped in

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Sociopaths–Diverging Public Versus Private Personas


Husband Liar SociopathBy O.N. Ward

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 16: You Have But Slumber’d Here While These Visions Did Appear

I chalked up Paul’s honeymoon comment to the shock and stress of us both returning to our grueling careers after our wedding and week off in California. Like a dream, the clarity of the incident and subsequent confusing and unsatisfying conversation with Paul faded. Life went on. … Read more

How therapists can help support traumatized clients who face sociopaths in court


Legal Abuse SyndromeMaybe you are one of many Lovefraud readers in a court battle with a sociopath divorce, child custody, or other litigation. Maybe, when you need to tell the court what you experienced you freeze, unable to speak, or even think.

You could be suffering from a psychiatric injury, such as PTSD.

According to the Americans with Disabilities Act, if you are diagnosed, you are entitled to accommodations to allow you equal access to the judicial system. Accommodations may include breaks if you become symptomatic, permission to tape record proceedings, and more.

Do you know about this? Does your therapist know?

On Thursday, August 4, Dr. Karin Huffer, author of the Legal Abuse Syndrome, will present a … Read more

UK man murders his partner after being released from prison for murdering another woman

Anthony Ayres was convicted of murder again.

Anthony Ayres was convicted of murder again.

Anthony Ayres was convicted to life in prison in 1994 for strangling his partner, Dawn Wisdom, to death. But in the U.K., “life in prison” doesn’t really mean being jailed for life, and Ayres was released in 2012.

He was just sentenced to another term of life in prison for murdering another girlfriend, Kelly Pearce, with a clawhammer, and stabbing her more than 40 times.

Plus, he’d been convicted of strangling two other women in 1988 and 1989. They survived.

But Ayres’ violence escalated, and now two women are dead.

Evil 5ft builder who was jailed for life for murdering his partner in 1994 and stabbed SECOND woman to death after Read more

10 Reasons why sociopaths really are losers

Pimp con man 200x300If you’re struggling to get over an encounter with a sociopath whether a romantic relationship or some other involvement keep this in mind: They are losers.

They are not worth any emotional energy that you are spending on them, or any pain that you feel. Here’s 10 reasons why:

 1 Sociopaths cannot love the way you do

The root of serious personality disorders antisocial, narcissistic, borderline and psychopathy is an impaired ability to love. These people cannot feel empathy like you do. They are not interested in caregiving — a critical component of real love. People diagnosed as antisocials or  psychopaths are not capable of love at all.

2. Sociopaths cannot be trusted

What do sociopaths really want Read more

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My life Living with a Sociopath (5 Years Wasted)

Spath Tales


My husband on the outside — the man everyone else sees:

– The nicest person you could ever meet

– Positive, Non-Confrontational, High Energy, Bubbly Personality

– Will bend over backwards to do anything to help anyone

– He is everyone’s best friend

– He will cook for you or will clean dishes if you cook for him ”¦ and always offers a helping hand

– Very attentive

– Very loving

– Will serve you coffee in bed every morning and maybe breakfast too!

– The kindest and biggest gentleman you think you have ever met

– Will always tell you how beautiful you are everyday

– He will take very good care of you financially

– … Read more

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