Archive for November, 2017

To a sociopath, children are simply bait and leverage

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of  my book,”Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, use the links at the bottom of the post.

I’ve also just released a new ebook titled Narcissists, SOCIOPATHS & Wolves: Lessons From Little Red Riding Hood. (Just click here to find it on Narcissists SOCIOPATHS & Wolves.)

Chapter 56A:  It’s Not Over Until Paul Says It’s Over

Three months after the divorce became official, Daniel was at one of his hated, required weekend visits with his father when he walked by … Read more

Psychologist kills his ex-wife in murder-suicide during custody battle

Mary Timmons Scott (Facebook)

Alabama police believe that Greg Scott, 63, a psychologist from Selma, killed his ex-wife, Mary Timmons Scott, 38, and then committed suicide. The couple were engaged in a custody dispute over their two young daughters.

Greg Scott was found dead of a self-inflicted gunshot wound in front of a funeral home. The body of his wife was found locked in the trunk of a car.

‘Daddy shot mommy’: Father-of-two psychologist, 63, ‘killed his ex-wife, 35, and locked her body in trunk of a car before committing suicide’ amid a custody battle, on

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Marriage fraud: Immigrants profess love for U.S. citizens to get green cards

Elena Maria Lopez was a victim of marriage fraud — but she’s trying to do something about it.

Elena met a man from the Netherlands who was “romantic and charming.” (Sound familiar?) When they married, Elena was looking for a life partner. Her husband was looking for a green card.

My ex-husband was Australian, but had four American wives. And I’ve heard from many Lovefraud readers who eventually found out their foreign spouses only married them to get citizenship.

Elena sent me a link to a recent investigative report by KPRC Channel 2 in Houston, in which she told her story. Elena has also testified in Congress — trying to get lawmakers to understand that marriage fraud is … Read more

How long does it take to recover from a sociopath?

Pensive woman


When I talk to people who have had their hearts broken into a million pieces by a sociopath, a question that I’m frequently asked is, “How long does it take to recover?”

I wish there were an easy answer to the question, but there isn’t. Involvements with sociopaths cause serious damage to our emotions, psychology, health, finances, social connections — to our very lives.  What I can say is that recovery is certainly possible, but it will probably take longer than a typical breakup.

Not breakup — betrayal

Why is recovery from a sociopath so difficult? Because this is NOT a typical breakup — it is a profound betrayal.

When normal people enter into a romantic relationship, … Read more

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, offers free online support group, Dec. 3, 2017 at 5 pm ET

Mary Ann GlynnExperience the support of people who know!  Join our free online video  support group Sunday, December 3, 2017 at 5 pm EDT.  Go to and use the Contact Form at the bottom of the home page to state your interest in joining.  Do this every time even if you have joined us before!  Include your Skype user name so we can confirm it and you can be added to the contact list for the group call.  If you cannot open a Skype account, send your phone number.

Share your struggles and get feedback, support, and hope from others who get it.  Hope to see you there!

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Donna Andersen’s three printed books are … Read more

Grateful for the truth on Thanksgiving

Photo by Jack Moreh

I remember the last Thanksgiving holiday with my sociopathic ex-husband, James Montgomery.

We were fighting. He kept telling me money would come in from his business venture, and it wasn’t happening. As we drove to my family’s house for Thanksgiving dinner, I was still steaming. The thought popped into my head, “All I want is my money back, and then I’ll get a divorce.”

I surprised myself. It was the first time I thought about divorce.

I never did get my money back. In fact, with all that was taken from me, I had to declare bankruptcy. Still, on this Thanksgiving Day 19 years later, I have much to be grateful for.

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Overcoming the residual fear from sociopathic abuse — two steps forward, one step back

By Eleanor Cowan

One bitterly cold winter’s morning at the Vendome metro in Montreal, I hopped a bus that would take me to a lecture on “Attentiveness and Developing Awareness” — and got a complete lesson well before I arrived at the class.

The driver of the vehicle, an unsmiling muscled-bound individual, closely examined my transfer for the minute expiry hour stamped upon it. With a curt nod, I was permitted to take my seat. About two minutes later, the driver revved up the ignition for departure, but not before an elderly lady rapped on the glass door, asking for entry. The driver looked down at her, examined his watch for the ten seconds it would have taken … Read more

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Arizona professor Melissa Ann Santana charged with five counts of stalking

Melissa Ann Santana (Police handout)

Melissa Ann Santana, 36, an associate professor of interior design at Northern Arizona University, was indicted of five counts of felony stalking.

Prosecutors say Sanders used multiple aliases and email accounts to stalk two firefighters with the U.S. Forest Service whom she met on Tinder. She also allegedly stalked the wife of a firefighter, a friend of the firefighter, and a student.

A judge locked her up because she is viewed as a danger to the public.

NAU professor arrested on stalking charges, on

Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader.… Read more

5 stages of endurance to help you recover from the sociopath

Sociopaths do terrible things to us. I hear so many painful stories from Lovefraud readers — perhaps you have a similar experience:

  • You may have had your heart shattered into a million pieces
  • You may have lost your home, your job and all your money
  • You may have suffered physical assault, illness, and emotional or psychological breakdown
  • You who have lost your children, because the sociopaths got custody, poisoned the kids’ minds, or both
  • You may who have lost years of your life, time that can never be replaced

Sometimes when I hear these stories, my heart just breaks. Because sometimes, as much as I would like to offer solutions, the sociopaths have enacted such total destruction that … Read more

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