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By June 3, 2017 7 Comments

Despite the ocean between us, he controlled my every move

Spath TalesLovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call “Larissa.”

I met him while I was traveling through India. We crossed paths twice within an hour and chatted at the seaside cafe where I had ordered a meal. He was very attractive, striking even – but I was not at all consciously interested in a romance with this guy. I had encountered quite a lot of lechery as a woman traveling alone, although he seemed different. Gentle. Interesting. He seemed very savvy and initially, even slightly aloof to the point of seeming guarded around me. Polar opposite to what I had been experiencing!

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, to host free online support group chat Sunday June 11 at 8 pm.

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, offers FREE online chat support group.  Mary Ann GlynnExperience the support of people who know!  Join our free online live chat support group Sunday night, June 11, 2017 at 8 pm EDT at www.destructiverelationshipshelp.com.  Share your struggles and get feedback, support, and hope from others who get it.  The group is professionally run.  Hope to see you there!

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By June 2, 2017 0 Comments

English breast cancer surgeon who performed unneeded operations jailed for 15 years

Ian Paterson

English breast cancer surgeon Ian Paterson performed unnecessary surgeries — including mastectomies — for more than a decade. Why? Possibly for the money.

Paterson was convicted 15 years in prison intentional wounding of 10 patients. According to Sky News, Judge Jeremy Baker said: “You deliberately played upon their worst fears, either by inventing or deliberately exaggerating the risk that they would develop cancer, and thereby gained their trust and confidence to consent to the surgical procedures which you carried out upon them.”

Rogue breast cancer surgeon Ian Paterson jailed for 15 years, on msn.com.

Link provided by a Lovefraud reader.

Posted in: Media sociopaths
By June 1, 2017 5 Comments

Understanding someone is a sociopath brings clarity

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 45D: Whack-A-Mole Returns

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By May 31, 2017 0 Comments

The Marriage Masks: Three types of sociopathic relationships

Woman behind maskHere at Lovefraud, we’ve heard thousands of horror stories of marriages to sociopaths. Thinking about these unfortunate involvements, it seems to me that there are three types of romantic relationships with sociopaths. I call them the Marriage Masks, and they are:

1. Calculated exploitation

The sociopath targets an individual for the explicit purpose of exploiting him or her, using the unsuspecting partner for money, sex, a place to live or something else that the sociopath wants.

My ex-husband, James Montgomery, targeted me because I had what he wanted: money, good credit, my own home and business connections in the city where he decided he was going to make a fortune. He sweet talked me, married me and drained me, and then he moved on without a thought.

By May 30, 2017 0 Comments

Texas nurse, in prison for killing one child, suspected of killing 60 more

Genene Jones (Texas Department of Criminal Justice)

Genene Jones, 66, was convicted of killing a 15-month-old girl back in 1982, and sickening a 4-week-old boy, when she was a pediatric nurse in Texas. Jones was sentenced to 99 years and 60 years for her crimes, which she is serving concurrently. She was due to be released next year, because of a mandatory release law.

But Jones has just been charged with another crime — the 1981 death of an 11-month-old boy. Authorities suspect she may have killed as many as 60 children between 1977 and 1982 — they all died either during or shortly after her shifts in hospitals and clinics around San Antonio.

Posted in: Media sociopaths
By May 29, 2017 6 Comments

10 tips to start dating again after leaving a sociopath

We are allowed to recover from the trauma of a relationship with a sociopath. We are allowed to move on. In fact, if we don’t move on, if we don’t take our lives back, we are still in the trauma. It is healthy to put an end to it.

A reporter was writing an article and sent out a query: “How do you know when to trust “your man”? I believe the answer is you can trust your man (or woman) when you can trust yourself.

Of course, that is exactly what many of us who had multiple run-ins with sociopaths and other bad actors struggle with. How do we know that we’re no longer sending out the “I’m a victim” vibes?

By May 27, 2017 1 Comments

He lied up until the last minute of our relationship

 

Spath TalesEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call “Claudette.”

Met online. He was a perfect gentleman. We had several dates until he started talking about mind, body and spirit (which meant sex to him) and I mentioned I do not have sex just to be having sex. That night he says let’s be boyfriend and girlfriend. So we did become BF and GF.

I assumed (stupid me) that he would take his dating profile down since now in a committed relationship. I took mine down and never looked again, until one day my GF called me and told me that she was just matched (online dating site) with him. AND that he was currently online searching.

By May 26, 2017 0 Comments

Senior Sociopath survey closing soon

There’s a rumor floating around in mental health circles that sociopaths “burn out” with age, that they engage in less antisocial behavior as they get older.

Is this true?

Lovefraud wants to find out. So we’ve developed a survey to gather data from you.

Were you involved with a sociopath while he or she was over age 50? The individual could have been any of the following:

  • Your spouse or ex-spouse
  • Your romantic partner
  • Your parent
  • Angry Frowning Man with Arms FoldedYour stepparent
  • Your child
  • Your stepchild
  • Your sibling
  • Another family member
  • A work colleague
  • A business associate
By May 25, 2017 0 Comments

The realization that someone you thought you knew and loved is a sociopath is brutal

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 45C: Whack-A-Mole Returns

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