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By | September 18, 2017 3 Comments

5 steps to avoid being taken in a romance scam — beware of fake documentation

A scammer stole this image and used it to start an online romance, then took money from his target.

Fake documentation is easy to create, and romance scammers know it. I recently received the following email from a reader in Denmark whom we’ll call “Grete”:

In december 2015 i got to know an engineer from New Jersey. He claimed he was from New Jersey.
He got a contract from Shell. The job was in Ukraine.
We spoke on the phone every day.
He made me believe I was the one.
I trusted him.
When he arrived in Ukraine, his problems started.
He said that his credit card didn’t work.
His bank accountant send me a collateral letter.

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By | September 16, 2017 4 Comments

The sociopath is a neighbor of a family member!! Ugh!!!!

First, I would like to say how beneficial reading the Lovefraud site has been. It has really pulled me through some rough moments of dealing with the sociopath that I was romantically linked to.

He and I were in a LDR relationship (or so I thought) for a year and a half. I knew something was off right away, but I thought it was fear of commitment on his part or depression. He did all of the textbook things a sociopath would do (before I knew what one was.) He blew hot and cold, would ignore me for weeks, try to make me jealous, disappear on special days even when I was in town, and so much more.The … Read more

By | September 15, 2017 0 Comments

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, offers free video/voice chat on Sept 24th at 5 pm EST.

Mary Ann GlynnJoin our online video/voice chat support group (your choice) on Sunday, September 24, 2017 at 5 pm EDT.  Please send your Skype user name asap to using the contact form at the bottom of the home page.  A Skype account is the most reliable way to join, so I encourage you to get one.  If that’s a problem, send your phone number.  Sending your user name or number in asap will ensure you will be added as a contact which enables us to add you to the call.

Experience the support of people who know!  It’s free and confidential.  Hope to see you there!
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By | September 15, 2017 0 Comments

Unbelievable love scam costs woman $1.1 million in four months

“Grace,” a permanent resident of Singapore, met Lee, a Canadian businessman, through a friend. They kept in contact via Facebook and met multiple times for dinner and drinks. But this was a long con — about six months later, Lee put the squeeze on Grace. He claimed that he was stopped at the Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, airport, with US$2 million in cash. He needed her help to prove his innocence.

Then, his accomplice, pretending to be a United Nations employee, told Grace that Malaysian customs wanted US$250,000 in exchange for his release. She came up with the money — and lots more. Nine months later, she reported him to the police. Her money is gone.

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By | September 14, 2017 11 Comments

Be careful–sociopaths think boundaries and laws don’t apply to them

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.  

I’ve also just released a new ebook titled Narcissists, SOCIOPATHS & Wolves: Lessons From Little Red Riding Hood. (Just click here to find it on Narcissists SOCIOPATHS & Wolves.)

Chapter 51E:  The Earthquake Strikes

Jessica was spending a lot of time at Paul’s but had not officially moved in with him and Linda. One day, prior to Paul and I going … Read more

By | September 13, 2017 1 Comments

Donna Andersen talks about sociopaths on Facebook Live

Last night Donna Andersen was the guest on the Real Perspectives TV Show, hosted by LeTonya Moore and Mario Brown and broadcast via Facebook Live. She talked about her experience with a sociopathic husband, the warning signs that you might be dating a sociopath, how people get hooked by sociopaths, and more. It’s a great show — take a look!

Real Perspectives TV Show with Donna Andersen, on… Read more

By | September 13, 2017 4 Comments

When am I going to stop being angry?

Mary Ann GlynnBy Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, CHT

After being in a relationship with a sociopath, clients are often conflicted by the idea of forgiveness as recommended by their faith system (I checked and all the world’s major religions admonish to forgive) as opposed to the perpetual anger they feel. As therapists, we never pressure someone who has been abused to forgive their perpetrator, because we don’t want to minimize the impact of that abuse. While someone is moving through the emotions of healing from abuse and trauma, they are going to experience quite a bit of anger, even rage, which can hang around for a long time.

Is there such a thing as having too much anger? So when … Read more

By | September 12, 2017 0 Comments

Love fraud is nothing new – here’s a case from 1964

Raymon Shaw of British Columbia, Canada, was reported missing in 1964.

On November 25, 1964, Raymon Shaw of Canada called his new wife and told her he’d be home around 7:30 p.m. Instead, he disappeared.

According to the Royal Canadian Mounted Police of Langley, British Columbia, Shaw may not have been who he claimed to be.

“Investigators discovered Raymon SHAW had also gone by the names John ADAMS and Walter BRIAN,” says Cpl. Holly Largy of the RCMP. “Further, he was very likely a fraudster who married women to swindle them out of their money.”

The RCMP is seeking information on this cold case. More details:

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Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader, … Read more

By | September 11, 2017 18 Comments

The Swinging Female Psychopath And The Partner Left Behind: When The Fog Lifts

Well it has  been 7 months since our two an a half year “relationship” ended and I am still picking up the pieces.

I never ever could have imagined the rabbit hole I’d fallen into.

The things I now know have shocked and altered me to the core of my very being. It has been like unraveling the giant web of a black widow, one silky strand at a time.

When I met her I thought I had found love at first sight. The connection seemed electric, she was in my estimation perfect. My patchwork princess.

We were engaged  within six months and three months before we broke up we actually took a marriage covenant together. Well I … Read more

By | September 9, 2017 11 Comments

Will the sociopath treat the next wife better?

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Lovefraud received the following email from a reader:

I always knew there was something wrong with my ex-husband, and friends and family did as well. There were lies, gambling, cheating, drug use, rehab 3 times, head games. He would drive erratically with our son and I in the car (even when our son was very little). He would speed up if there was a cat or other animal in the road. I would always completely freak out so he never ran one over when I was in the car, but I wouldn’t be surprised if he did when I wasn’t. (I could tell his counselor in rehab #3 knew there was more

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