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By June 27, 2017 0 Comments

Sex offender gets out of jail and rapes a 7-year-old girl, police say

Corbin James Breitenbach (Wichita Police Dept.)

Corbin James Breitenbach, 23, of Wichita, Kansas, had already done four years in prison for choking and raping a 22-year-old woman. He was released on April 28 — and six weeks later, he was arrested for breaking into a second-floor apartment bedroom, taking a 7-year-old girl out on to the balcony, and raping her.

A family member said that when Breitenbach was 17, “something changed him. He snapped.”

Psychopathy often kicks in at adolescence, and it sounds like that’s what happened.

Convicted sex offender, 23, sneaks into neighbor’s home and ‘rapes and chokes girl, SEVEN, just six weeks after being released from prison on parole for another assault’, on DailyMail.co.uk.

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By June 26, 2017 4 Comments

Does he sound like a full-blown narcissist and/or sociopath? Or maybe some form of borderline personality disorder?

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we’ll call “bonnie2017.” Donna Andersen responds to her questions at the end of the letter. Names have been changed.

Following my most recent life-shattering break-up 4 weeks ago, I happened upon your website, lovefraud.com, and found it extremely helpful and insightful! I first wanted to thank you for all the invaluable information you provide. I also wanted to tell you my sad story about my almost-baby-daddy and get your feedback. Maybe it can help others too.

By June 25, 2017 1 Comments

Catfishing victim, 19, shoots at man who scammed him

Chauncy Wilkerson (Baton Rouge Police Department)

Catfishing can be dangerous. Chauncy Wilkerson, 19, of Baton Rouge, Louisiana, met a woman on the dating app TAGGED — except that it was really a man posing as a woman.

Wilkerson told the man not to come to his home. The guy showed up anyway, pulled into the driveway, drove towards Wilkerson and his mother, striking both of them. Wilkerson then fired four shots at the vehicle as it fled.

Wilkerson was arrested. No word on any consequences for the catfisher.

BRPD: 19-year-old fires shots at man posing as woman on social media app, on WBRZ.com.

Posted in: Media sociopaths
By June 24, 2017 0 Comments

New York Justice Lori Sattler loses $1 million in email scam

Justice Lori Sattler (New York Courts)

Here’s proof that absolutely anyone can be scammed. Lori Sattler, a judge with the New York Supreme Court, lost more than $1 million in an email scam.

Sattler received an email that looked like it came from her real estate attorney. It instructed her to wire $1,057,500 to an account in Arizona. But her attorney never sent the email. Her money was transferred to the Commerce Bank of China.

Police are investigating.

New York Supreme Court judge scammed out of $1 million by just ONE EMAIL: Jurist wires cash to fraudsters pretending to be her lawyer while trying to sell her swanky apartment, on DailyMail.co.uk.

If we want something different, we need to do something different

Amber Ault

By Amber Ault, Ph.D., MSW

I’m fond of this axiom: “If you want something different from what you’ve had, you need to do something different from what you’ve done.”

Here’s an important corollary: Doing something different will, at first, feel strange.

When we envision something different for ourselves and begin to practice creating it, it’s important to prepare to receive it. Otherwise, new possibilities will be assimilated by the powerful machinery of old patterns and we’ll continue to feel stuck. It’s not enough to want something different, or even to envision it. In order to create something different, we must release the barriers — often unconscious — that stand in its way. We need to lay in new skills, including tolerating the discomforts of receiving the goodness we desire.

By June 22, 2017 1 Comments

Freeing oneself from a sociopath is challenging and can be dangerous

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 47: Divorcing a Sociopath–Round II

By June 21, 2017 5 Comments

Sociopaths and double lives

Man with maskA reporter inquired about people who live double lives. Why do they do it? Can they maintain double lives for a long time? What are the dangers?

Like most of us at Lovefraud, I have some experience with this. My ex-husband, James Montgomery, cheated with at least six different women during our 2.5-year marriage. He had a child with one of the women. Ten days after I left him, he married the mother of the child, which was the second time he committed bigamy. And of course, he took a quarter-million dollars from me—spending much of the money entertaining these other women.

By June 19, 2017 1 Comments

Raw power and control — the core of what sociopaths want

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we’ll call “Maisie.”

Here is my story. I would be grateful for any thoughts as I’m still trying to make sense of something I went through.

I was in the very best relationship for 25 years and then he died.

Afterwards I was utterly heartbroken and alone as a result I think of being still quite young in my circle of friends and them not being able to cope with the tragedy.

In the village where I lived a newcomer stopped me whilst I was walking to introduce himself. He would stop from time to time to talk to me.

By June 17, 2017 3 Comments

Michelle Carter, 20, guilty of manslaughter for texting Conrad Roy III to kill himself

Back in 2014, Conrad Roy III, then 17, was struggling with depression. His ex-girlfriend, Michelle Carter, then 17, knew it. On July 12, Conrad prepared to commit suicide — and Carter sent him dozens of text messages, urging him to do it. Following are some of the messages:

Some of the text messages from Michelle Carter to Conrad Roy urging him to commit suicide.

Carter was convicted of involuntary manslaughter on Friday.

The victim’s mother, Lynn Roy, says Carter has no conscience.


By June 16, 2017 3 Comments

Sociopaths keep the charade going as long as it suits their purpose

man in maskI was with my sociopathic ex-husband, James Montgomery, for two and a half years. During this time, I knew he was costing me money, but he attributed his lack of business success to “being ahead of his time.” I eventually discovered that he was lying and cheating on me. But although I saw eruptions of anger, my ex was never abusive towards me—nothing like the abuse many of you have endured.

Some sociopaths can treat people reasonably well for an extended period of time, if it suits their purpose. For example, Lovefraud received the following e-mail from a reader:

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