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By February 1, 2017 1 Comments

Woman finds the ‘pickup artists’ who raped her – and bragged about it on the Internet

Tattooed hands of a criminal handcuffedA San Diego woman passed out in the apartment of some guys she just met in October 2013. She was raped. When she awoke, she went to the police.

Many rape cases end up being “he said, she said” situations, where the perpetrator claims that the sex was consensual. But this woman conducted her own Internet investigation. She found that the man who raped her, Alexander Markham Smith, 27, and his friend, Jonas Dick, 28, ran a business called “Efficient Pickup.”

The idea was to teach men how to have sex with as many women as possible.

By January 31, 2017 0 Comments

7 Warning signs of a romance scam

boomers seniors onlineValentine’s Day is approaching. It’s a big day for romance and romance scammers.

What are warning signs that a potential partner that you met online is, in reality, a con artist? A British financial company called Keeping It Simple compiled a list that includes:

  1. Can’t meet or chat on the phone
  2. Inconsistencies in their story
  3. Repetition they can’t remember what they told to whom
  4. Wanting to chat via text/Whatsapp
  5. Sending emails to you with attachments to give your computer a virus
  6. Asking you a lot of questions, but not answering any of yours
  7. Their picture is too perfect movie star material
By January 30, 2017 0 Comments

Radical Acceptance – a path to true emotional healing after the devastation of a sociopath

Radical AcceptanceBook Review: Radical Acceptance Embracing your life with the heart of a Buddha, by Tara Brach.

Review by Donna Andersen

You realize, or at least suspect, that you have a sociopath in your life that’s why you’re reading Lovefraud. You may still be in a state of shock you never really understood that people like this actually existed. But they do; now what do you do?

Lovefraud is full of information and advice about escaping a sociopath and dealing with the fallout. Generally, recovery means moving forward along two paths. You can pursue both paths at the same time, and progress on one path helps you with the other one.

By January 28, 2017 1 Comments

Woman fakes blindness for 15 years, collects nearly $400,000 in veteran’s benefits

Blind_Woman 2_200x247Back in 2001, Veronica Dale Hahn, 60, of Bonifay, Florida, told the U.S. Department of Veteran’s Affairs that she was 100 percent blind in both eyes due to her military service. The VA believed her, and started paying her veteran’s disability benefits. In 15 years, she collected $394,800.85.

In the meantime, she obtained driver’s licenses in New Mexico, Alabama and Florida, with no vision restrictions. She drove her vehicle and worked full-time as a case manager at state correctional facilities.

Hahn pleaded guilty last week. When she is sentenced, she faces 10 years in prison.

Holmes County woman pleads guilty to fraudulently receiving veterans disability benefits, on Justice.gov.

By January 27, 2017 14 Comments

I continued to choose him over everyone and everything that ever mattered to me

Spath TalesEditor’s note: Lovefraud received this story from a reader whom we’ll call “Ellie.”

This is the story of how I allowed myself to become emotionally dismantled by the man to whom I chose to give my heart.

I loved him unconditionally. I accepted and forgave him without judgment. I empathized with stories of his childhood, when he felt unseen, unloved and insecure. I nurtured him through times of deep depression, drug abuse and alcoholism. I made excuse after excuse by rationalizing his behavior and convincing myself that I knew he could be more than what he was. I believed he could be the man I saw him to be, the man he wished he could be ”¦ I held on to hope that it would be ok, and that there wasn’t anything we couldn’t get through together.

By January 26, 2017 17 Comments

My Unwitting Relationship With A Sociopath Corroded Who “I” Was

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Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 37B: “It’s Like Déjà Vu All Over Again.” (Yogi Berra)

Soon after, I required minor surgery. As I had with Jessica’s testing, I involved Paul when setting a date for the procedure to ensure he would be available to help the kids and me. I was forced to reschedule my procedure two times, because Paul’s work demands kept trumping my health needs. Two days before the surgery, he called me from Chicago.

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW offers free online support chat Jan 29th at 8 pm

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, offers FREE online chat support group.  Mary Ann GlynnExperience the support of people who know!  Join our free online live chat support group next Sunday night, Feb 12, 2017 at 8 pm EDT at www.destructiverelationshipshelp.com.  Share your struggles and get feedback, support, and hope from others who get it.  The group is professionally run.  

Here’s how to join:

At 8 pm come to the site and scroll down the home page to the Services section. Click on the green highlighted “live chat support group,” and you will be brought to the chat room as a Guest#.  When the chat room is not open that link will take you to a page with info on the next group.  Hope to see you there!

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By January 25, 2017 0 Comments

‘Sextortion Queen’ tricks men into performing sex acts on Skype, then blackmails them

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Maria Caparas-Regalachuelo, the ‘Sextortion Queen’

Maria Caparas-Regalachuelo of the Philippines, aka the “Sextortion Queen,” boasts that it only takes 30 minutes to convince men to get naked and perform sex acts via Skype. Then she posts the videos to YouTube and threatens to send them to the victims’ families, unless they pay up.

In an exclusive interview with the Daily Mail, she details exactly how the scam works. She has a crew of “chatters,” mostly young girls and transgender men, who troll the Internet looking for targets. When they find a target, they play a pre-recorded video of an Asian woman performing a striptease, and then send a string of racy text messages.

By January 24, 2017 1 Comments

One easy way to know if the soldier you met online is a scammer

Photo courtesy of FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Photo courtesy of FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Valentine’s Day is coming, and the U.S. Army expects a surge in scam reports.

Thousands of lonely women, looking for love online, meet members of the U.S. military. The men are handsome and rugged, they’re serving in harm’s way, and they’re also lonely. The men chat the women up, the women fall in love. The men want to pursue the relationship, but, they say, they need financial help to do it. Can the women send money?

Don’t do it! It’s a scam!

The U. S. Army Criminal Investigation Command says this:  DO NOT SEND MONEY TO PEOPLE YOU MEET ON THE INTERNET WHO CLAIM TO BE U.S. MILITARY.

By January 23, 2017 7 Comments

Vocabulary 101: 10 terms to help you name your experience with a sociopath

AnxietyDepression_300x200One of the reasons why it’s so difficult to explain what happens when you’re involved with a sociopath is that you don’t have the words.

Because of the general lack of awareness about personality disorders in society, and the lack of education about it, there is no generally accepted terminology to describe various aspects of the experience.

But descriptive language has evolved among online communities of survivors. Here is a vocabulary to help you name what you experienced. When you can name it, you can begin to recover from it.

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