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By November 23, 2017 1 Comments

Grateful for the truth on Thanksgiving

Photo by Jack Moreh

I remember the last Thanksgiving holiday with my sociopathic ex-husband, James Montgomery.

We were fighting. He kept telling me money would come in from his business venture, and it wasn’t happening. As we drove to my family’s house for Thanksgiving dinner, I was still steaming. The thought popped into my head, “All I want is my money back, and then I’ll get a divorce.”

I surprised myself. It was the first time I thought about divorce.

I never did get my money back. In fact, with all that was taken from me, I had to declare bankruptcy. Still, on this Thanksgiving Day 19 years later, I have much to be grateful for.

Posted in: Donna Andersen
By November 22, 2017 0 Comments

Overcoming the residual fear from sociopathic abuse — two steps forward, one step back

By Eleanor Cowan

One bitterly cold winter’s morning at the Vendome metro in Montreal, I hopped a bus that would take me to a lecture on “Attentiveness and Developing Awareness” — and got a complete lesson well before I arrived at the class.

The driver of the vehicle, an unsmiling muscled-bound individual, closely examined my transfer for the minute expiry hour stamped upon it. With a curt nod, I was permitted to take my seat. About two minutes later, the driver revved up the ignition for departure, but not before an elderly lady rapped on the glass door, asking for entry. The driver looked down at her, examined his watch for the ten seconds it would have taken to open the door and admit her, adjusted the shift sticks and noisily tore off without her. I saw the aged woman bow her head and quickly step back onto the snowy sidewalk shelter as the bus swept away without her.

Posted in: Eleanor Cowan
By November 20, 2017 0 Comments

Arizona professor Melissa Ann Santana charged with five counts of stalking

Melissa Ann Santana (Police handout)

Melissa Ann Santana, 36, an associate professor of interior design at Northern Arizona University, was indicted of five counts of felony stalking.

Prosecutors say Sanders used multiple aliases and email accounts to stalk two firefighters with the U.S. Forest Service whom she met on Tinder. She also allegedly stalked the wife of a firefighter, a friend of the firefighter, and a student.

A judge locked her up because she is viewed as a danger to the public.

NAU professor arrested on stalking charges, on AZDailySun.com.

Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader.

By November 20, 2017 1 Comments

5 stages of endurance to help you recover from the sociopath

Sociopaths do terrible things to us. I hear so many painful stories from Lovefraud readers — perhaps you have a similar experience:

  • You may have had your heart shattered into a million pieces
  • You may have lost your home, your job and all your money
  • You may have suffered physical assault, illness, and emotional or psychological breakdown
  • You who have lost your children, because the sociopaths got custody, poisoned the kids’ minds, or both
  • You may who have lost years of your life, time that can never be replaced
By November 18, 2017 0 Comments

Lovefraud webinar preview – The Five Step Exit: Tools you need to leave a psychopath, narcissist or other toxic partner

Are you starting to think that you should get out of your relationship — but you have no idea how to begin extricating yourself? If so, this course, presented by Dr. Amber Ault, takes you, step-by-step, through the process of gathering support for your escape to making your move — and dealing with the chaos that may follow.

About this course

You’re not happy with your intimate relationship — you’re feeling misunderstood, exploited, manipulated and devalued. But it’s complicated — finances, kids, social pressures, not to mention your own confusion. How do you sort out what to do?

By November 17, 2017 8 Comments

After getting rid of one sociopath, another sociopath shows up


I’ve heard from multiple Lovefraud readers over the years who were annoyed, angry, horrified. These readers had finally realized what they were dealing with—a sociopath. They extricated themselves from the relationships and had no further contact with the disordered individuals. And what happened? Another sociopath came into their lives.

The readers asked: What is going on? Why can’t they leave me alone? Am I a sociopath magnet?

The answer is, not necessarily. Following are some observations to add perspective to the situation.

Millions of sociopaths

These disordered individuals are everywhere. As long as we’re living on this planet, we face the possibility of running into them.

By November 16, 2017 3 Comments

Sociopaths enjoy the game of destroying others–enabled by the courts, they find ways to keep the game alive

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of  my book,”Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, use the links at the bottom of the post.

I’ve also just released a new ebook titled Narcissists, SOCIOPATHS & Wolves: Lessons From Little Red Riding Hood. (Just click here to find it on Amazon.com Narcissists SOCIOPATHS & Wolves.)

Chapter 55:  Paul’s Way

By November 15, 2017 2 Comments

My uncle is a sociopath — how do I protect our family?

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we’ll call, “Trisha17.”

My uncle (mother’s side) is a sociopath. I’ve known since my first memory of him as a child, I just saw it in his mannerisms, heard it in his voice, saw it in his lack of genuine care for others. I just instinctually knew. I have always found him to be totally fake.

My father is a highly intelligent and relatively benign grandiose narcissist. I have narcissistic traits but am definitely an empath. I have clued in to sociopaths and have been taken aback that no one else sees it.

By November 14, 2017 0 Comments

Jennifer Lynn Morrissey, 33, allegedly kills her ‘sugar daddy’

Jennifer Lynn Morrissey (Facebook)

Jennifer Lynn Morrissey, 33, of multiple addresses in Pennsylvania and New Jersey, referred to Michael D. McNew, 64, as her “sugar daddy.” He bought her presents and paid her expenses. Morrissey moved into McNew’s home along the Delaware River in 2015.

But McNew threw her out. On August 6, 2017, Morrissey threatened to kill him. Morrissey’s body was found on August 8, 2017. He had been shot once in the face.

Morrissey has been charged with murder.

Woman charged in killing of Bucks pharma exec, on Philly.com.

Woman, 33, killed ‘sugar daddy’ after he ended relationship, prosecutors says, on FoxNews.com.

By November 13, 2017 1 Comments

Devin Kelley, Texas church shooter, exhibited a pattern of psychopathic behavior, but no one saw the whole picture

Devin Kelley

The stories coming out of the massacre in the First Baptist Church in Sutherland Springs, Texas, are horrific and heartbreaking.

The shooter, Devin Patrick Kelley, 26, walked into the church dressed in combat gear and killed congregants in the pews.  One survivor reported that Kelley became enraged that children were scared, and shot them multiple times.

Kelley executed 26 people that day, including nine children. Eight members of one extended family were killed. Twenty more churchgoers were injured.

Authorities release IDs of Texas church victims, on ABCnews.go.com

Afterwards, of course, everyone is asking, “How did this happen?” “Were there any warning signs?”

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