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Dr. Laura Rubiales: Sociopaths, PTSD and the Mind Body Connection

By Dr. Laura Rubiales

After reading an e-mail with the accusatory gibberish/provoking/non-responsibility-taking BS that only a sociopath or other bona-fide Cluster B personality disordered person can seem to write, I found myself with palpitations, panicked, blood pressure rising, on the verge of a spiking migraine and barely able to breathe. I immediately called a girlfriend to therapeutically debrief. In her gorgeous Louisiana Southern drawl she said, “Darlin,’ you just don’t mess with crazy.”

In all I have learned about the nervous system from over 20 years of studying and working with sick people, let me tell you why it is best to just “not mess with crazy” from a physiological perspective.

By August 28, 2018 0 Comments

BTK Serial killer in his own words on Oxygen Network Sept. 2

Most sociopaths never kill anyone. But some of them do commit cold, calculated murder, and they want the credit for it.

Dennis Rader, the BTK Serial Killer (BTK stands for bind, torture and kill) murdered 10 people over 30 years. Towards the end, he sent letters to both the media and the police, taunting them and bragging about the murders. His communications eventually got him caught.

Snapped: Notorious BTK Serial Killer airs Sunday, September 2 at 6 pm on the Oxygen network.

Read more about the BTK killer and his crimes here:

By August 27, 2018 4 Comments

Sociopaths leave us totally disoriented — here’s why

Pensive woman


Most of us grow up believing that all people are created equal, that human beings are basically good, and everybody wants to be loved. These are the messages we learn in school, in church, and in the age of political correctness, from the media.

These beliefs are the lenses through which we view the world and the people in it. Our beliefs influence how we perceive and understand the behavior of those we meet. And, for 84 percent of the population, the beliefs work just fine.

Bad treatment

By August 25, 2018 3 Comments

Living with a Sociopath

Well where do I start? I guess right from the beginning.


I was 31 when I met the most handsome charming man in the world, I had travelled well, I used to be a holiday rep abroad, so I thought I was a pretty good judge of character……..

I met him on a night out with friends, on a Saturday Night, we talked all night long, I even went back to his place (no funny business) and we talked all night there too!!

By August 24, 2018 0 Comments

If court-appointed professionals in your custody case are biased, learn what to do in Lovefraud’s upcoming webinar

Friend or foe in your custody battle? Understanding best interest attorneys, custody evaluators and parenting coordinators
Presented by Susan Shofer, the Divorce Consultant
Wed., Sept. 5, 8-9 pm ET • $25

More info

In this video, Susan Shofer, the Divorce Consultant, gives a preview of her upcoming webinar. If you’re in a custody battle with a sociopath, and the judge is thinking about appointing a best interest attorney (guardian ad litem), custody evaluator or parenting coordinator, you need this information.

By August 23, 2018 2 Comments

After the sociopath: Courage is fear that said its prayers

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we’ll call “Carol18.”

I’m a 62-year-old woman who left a sociopath husband three years ago. I went online to meet who I thought was my dream man. He was charming; the second date he said I will treat you like no other man has ever treated you before. That was the only true thing he ever said to me.

He was romantic my Prince Charming, bought flowers, cards. Then after I fell in love, he tells me he had cancer, had a job as a cook (profile said chef) and financially secure.

By August 22, 2018 0 Comments

Seagram heiress Clare Bronfman arrested as part of Keith Ranier’s Nxivm cult

Keith Ranier (YouTube)

Now, a cult for the rich and famous. Clare and Sara Bronfman, heiresses to the Seagram Company, gave $65 million to Keith Raniere, who founded a self-help group called Nxivm (pronounced “Nexium,” like the heartburn medication).

Last March, Raniere was charged in federal court with coercing women to have sex with him by threatening to reveal damaging secrets about them.

On July 24, Clare Bronfman was charged with conspiracy and criminal racketeering.

The organization even had a secret “sorority” for women, who were branded during the initiation ceremony. It was run like a pyramid scheme of “masters” and “slaves.”

Posted in: Media sociopaths
By August 21, 2018 0 Comments

Woman allegedly planned to kill her mother to get money for online love scammer

Roxanne Reed.

Roxanne Reed had fallen for an online love scammer. The 65-year-old woman from Raleigh, North Carolina, was sending him money.

Reed thought she was talking to a physical therapist and business owner from Texas. But that man’s identity had been stolen by the scammer.

Reed sent text messages to the scammer, saying she would kill her mother, although it’s unclear how she’d get money from that to send to the scammer.

Woman plotted to kill her mother for online love scam: police, on

Link supplied by a Lovefraud reader.


By August 20, 2018 14 Comments

Emotional and psychological abuse, described by 12 Lovefraud readers

What does emotional and psychological abuse look like? Here are a dozen examples provided by respondents to the Lovefraud Senior Sociopath Survey:

1 . Any arguments that happened as a result of me bringing up something he had done or said were always flipped to be my fault and I would end up crying and apologising and he would withhold affection.

2 . He would tell me that I was perfect and then if he didn’t like my behavior he would say I needed to change

By August 17, 2018 0 Comments

Upcoming webinar: Friend or foe in your custody battle? Understanding court-appointed professionals

Check out this webinar!

Friend or foe in your custody battle? Understanding best interest attorneys, custody evaluators and parenting coordinators
Presented by Susan Shofer, the Divorce Consultant
Wed., Sept. 5, 8-9 pm ET • $25

More info

If you’re divorcing a sociopath, and you have children with this person, the chances are good that you’ll end up in a custody battle.

It’s not that your soon-to-be-ex really cares about the children and wants to be in their lives. In reality, the sociopath wants to punish you, and the most painful way to do that is through the children.

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