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LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: To the liar named SHAME!

October 27, 2024 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  18 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2024. Editor's note: The following was sent to Lovefraud by the reader who posts as “Adelle.” She realized she was listening to a liar named shame, and banished it from her life. Looking back now, I realize how much damage SHAME can do. Of course the Spaths do the damage but along the way we pick up things that we think keep us safe.  These things that we cling to so tightly do exactly the opposite of what we think they do. Shame was one of my worst enemies in my SP experience. I didn't want anyone to know, what would they say? What would they think of me? They won't believe me! When I finally started telling people about my experience, I got the occasional, “Not you …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales, Recovery from a sociopath

LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: Hooked by an Internet predator

October 20, 2024 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  39 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2024. Editor's note: Lovefraud recently received the following e-mail from a reader whom we'll call “Greta.” She writes about being hooked by an internet predator. After being married for 23 years to an alcoholic, being sad and lonely, I was vulnerable and targeted by a sociopath online through Facebook. I live in the US, he was from the Netherlands but living in Italy at time. He sent me a random friend request, I accepted, we talked on instant message chat occasionally for about 9 months and then he zeroed in. He speaks 5 languages fluently and has traveled to many countries. He is very bright and articulate. We had similar interests, especially spiritually, or at least th …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales, Seduced by a sociopath

LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: A sorry senior citizen

October 13, 2024 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  15 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2024. Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call "Regina," a senior citizen who encountered a sociopath. I am now 77 years old and my sociopath is 74. We were together almost 7 years. You would think at my age I would have known better. I have finally left the creep for the 4th time, and with the help of Lovefraud blogs, I am on my way to full recovery. It still hurts that I could have been so stupid, but here's my story. To try and understand why I let myself be sucked in to a relationship with this creep, I have to go back 18 years to when my husband died. Shortly after his death, my nephew, then 15 years old, robbed me to the tune …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales, Seduced by a sociopath

LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: If the shoe doesn’t fit, don’t wear it!

October 5, 2024 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  146 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2024. Editor's note: The following post was submitted by the Lovefraud reader “Adelle.” We often hear the saying, “If the shoe fits wear it.” We all know people are not referring to a shoe. In other words, if the description fits you, own up to it. If someone calls you a fool, and you think you are a fool, then wear that title! If someone calls you a hypocrite and you agree, wear it, you are a hypocrite. But when this phrase is used, it isn't usually given to you as an option. It is usually used as a weapon of accusation. With evil, with intent to hurt. For example, “Are you calling me a liar?” Response: “Well, if the shoe fits wear it.” The person hearing this phrase is usu …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales, Recovery from a sociopath

LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: Thoughts about All Alone

September 29, 2024 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  66 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2024. Editor's note: The following email was sent by a Lovefraud reader, whom we'll call “Pamela.” She was married to a sociopath and subject to domestic violence. ALL ALONE All Alone, I am lying on the floor, all "woe is me," the man who promised to love me lied. I can't find a friend and my own mother's phone doesn't work. All Alone, I'm crying on this floor. All Alone, I notice I am still here. I am sad, but still here, and I've protected my dog that he threatened. My dog is still here. And my body is healthy, even after it has been thrown and bruised, I can still GET UP. All Alone, I feel my feet, I wiggle my toes. All Alone, the tears stop falling, and I loo …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales, Recovery from a sociopath

LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: Leaving the abuser, then expected to co-parent

September 22, 2024 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  46 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2024. Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call “Gloria." I have been divorced from my abusive husband (mental, physical, sexual against me but he NEVER LEFT A MARK ON ME) for 11 years and we have 3 teenagers together. I have known him 20 years. For most of this time, I have been puzzled about why I could not "move on" after the divorce. Yes, I left him. During the marriage I did not know the name "abusive," so I just kept trying to be a good wife and mother, fulfill my marriage commitment, etc., but then I woke up just enough to know that it was "abusive" and I left. We had gone to about 8 couples counselors during the marriage, a …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales, Sociopaths and family

LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: They are everywhere and they inflict serious damage

September 15, 2024 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  49 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2024. Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following e-mail from a reader who posts as “Trista.” We previously posted her story, “LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: I was dismissed with a shrug.” Well, Trista's story continues. I have written to you long ago telling how my S husband destroyed my life. I would never think that I would meet another one, even worst than the first. I wonder why I attract those people. This is a sad story that is still now breaking my heart. I'm giving this to you and to the site. I'm writing from Brazil, where I moved after my divorce. The very first week here I was looking for a flat and someone told me about an estate agent who could help. I went to me …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales, Media sociopaths, Seduced by a sociopath

LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: I want the woman back that I fell in love with, but I know it is impossible

September 8, 2024 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  373 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2024. Editor's note: Lovefraud received this e-mail from a man who posts as “Drained.' I guess I have been in a bit of a hole for a while now and have generally been going through a rough time, which in hindsight may have made me ripe for the picking by my sociopathic ex girlfriend. I had been unhappy in a previous long term relationship (prior to meeting my SP) for a considerable time, my ex partner is an amazing person, however we grew apart and were more suited as friends than lovers. I had been in this relationship for 12 years. My father passed away last year after losing his battle with cancer, which was incredibly hard to watch. I have been battling depression for s …

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Category: Female sociopaths, Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales, Seduced by a sociopath

I would rather be homeless than spend another day feeling soul-less

September 1, 2024 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  74 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2024: Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we'll call “Chelsea.” Wow, my eyes have been opened! My soul is trying to heal from the wounds I suffered being with what I now know without a doubt is a genuine SP man! My story begins on August 2005 when I walked into the restaurant and met who I thought was the most charming and compassionate man ever. I was with one of my best friends, and we began to chat when two fellows approached us and asked if we would like a drink. It seem harmless to us at the time, and we accepted their offer and began chatting with them. The first man seemed intoxicated and was acting very loud and immature. He was …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales, Media sociopaths, Seduced by a sociopath

LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: Final words to the sociopath

August 25, 2024 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  43 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2024. Editor's note: Lovefraud received this e-mail from a reader who we'll call “Judith.” I hope you read this, you know who you are. I have remained silent for too long. I never used my voice to express how I felt about your actions toward me. I stayed quiet while you stalked and harassed me when I chose to cut all ties with you. I was too worried about what would happen if I spoke up. During that time, I thought no reaction from me would be best and it was. I've since changed my mind and I have determined that there is a difference between "reacting" and using my voice to heal myself. In the last few years, I've done well. I never went back or got caught up in your d …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales, Recovery from a sociopath

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