Narcissists believe other people are on Earth to serve their needs, so they don't believe in other people's boundaries. According to a recent article on Huffington Post, this continues even after you end a romantic relationship with a narcissist. The author suggests how to deal with the issue. Setting boundaries with a narcissist, on HuffingtonPost.com. Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader. …
I am now the enemy, and I’ve never witnessed such coldness from the person I used to call my wife
Editor's Note: This Spath tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who uses the name "Wiserfromit." I believe I was married to a sociopath for over ten years. She was an old date from high school and had recently run into my friend and gotten my email address. We started talking via email for a couple months (we lived about eight hour's drive from each other). We agreed to meet near her and on our first meeting, she said I love you. I went along with it because it felt too good to be true. We went looking for rings soon after and got engaged about five months after our initial contact. I had proposed to her when she was visiting me in my town and the next day, she was on the phone …
Cyber stalking made easy with smartphones and spyware
Editor's Note: This article is a MUST READ for anyone who is being stalked or who needs to keep their location a secret. Because of the latest in smart phone technology, husbands, wives, lovers and exes don't need to leave the comfort of their homes, or hire a private detective, to be able to know their victim's every move. All they have to do is secretly monitor their victim's smart phone, tablet or computer. Stalkers now have software such as MSpy, which is easy to install. All that's needed is a few minutes alone with a victim's smart phone to download the app, activate it, and delete any visible trace of it. The cyber stalker then has the ability to listen in on every conversation, …
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Mary Ann Glynn: Book Review of ‘The Psychopath Inside’
The Psychopath Inside: A Neuroscientist's Personal Journey into the Dark Side of the Brain — by James Fallon Review by Mary Ann Glynn I first came across James Fallon's research on a show about psychopathy and the brain on the Science Channel. I was fascinated by what he found out by mistake about his own brain, which has added an interesting and significant spin to the discussion of nature and nurture in psychopathy. For thirty-five years James Fallon has been a neuroscientist educator and researcher, and has engineered major breakthroughs in stem cell research. His research lab led to the creation of three biotech companies, one of which won a national award from peers. His main areas of s …
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Mark Manson reveals why ‘Love is Not Enough’
Mark Manson is an author and entrepreneur who posts on his website hundreds of articles about psychology and modern culture. ”˜Love is Not Enough' is a straightforward look at love through Mark Manson's eyes. Manson compares John Lennon's notion that “all you need is love” with Nine Inch Nails' Trent Reznor's idea that “love is not enough.” Manson sides with Reznor and warns that there are three harsh truths about love: love does not equal compatibility, love does not solve your relationship problems, and love is not always worth sacrificing yourself. Manson summarizes that love is a wonderful experience. It's one of the greatest experiences life has to offer. And it is something ever …
Blame the victim, again
Editor's Note: This SPATH tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who goes by the name “Sisyphus Unchained.” He was handsome; he was charming; he had an incredible zest for life. But more importantly he was manipulative, deceitful and dangerous. In 2007 I met a man with whom I thought I shared interests: educational/community development projects in Southern Africa. He portrayed himself as the founder of a South African-based charitable project focused on the needs of orphaned/disadvantaged youths in the townships of Johannesburg (which much later, once I investigated further, all turned out to be non-existent). Over the course of the next four years he skillfully interspersed his r …
Fraudulent love syndicate in Malaysia pulls in $68,955
Five Nigerian students between the ages of 25 and 34, attending a private college in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, plus another girl local to Sungai Buloh, were arrested for operating a fraudulent dating syndicate on Facebook for the past six months. The suspects formed relationships with the victims and then requested that the victims transfer money into the suspects' accounts. So far, the syndicate has collected a total of RM 223,000 (US$68,955). Local Girl Involved In FB Love Fraud, from Malaysian Digetst.com …
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Ray Rice, the NFL, and domestic violence
[youtube_sc url=http://youtu.be/VbwTMJroTbI] I would like to thank the unidentified employee of the now-closed Revel Casino in Atlantic City, New Jersey, who leaked the video of the NFL player Ray Rice punching his fiancée in the head, knocking her unconscious. The employee likely sold the video to TMZ for thousands of dollars. In my opinion, it was worth every penny he or she received, because now the public's attention is focused on the issue of domestic violence. It's about time. In the U.S., 20 people per minute are victims of physical violence by an intimate partner, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. One in three women, and one in 14 men, have e …
Why I wrote, ‘Entangled’
By Natalie Monroe Divorced after thirty years and unsure about my future, my confidence level was at an all-time low. Alone for the first time in my life and living in Florida, I felt isolated, but too scared to get back into the dating scene. Luckily, I didn't have to. Only three months on my own, an old classmate through the high school website contacted me. I remembered him right away. “Daniel Weaver” (not his real name) one of the popular boys and someone who never had an interest in me. Taking a chance, I agreed to meet him in New York, on my next trip home. Good-looking and charming, he said all the right words to make me fall for him. Intent on overcoming the difficulties of a long dis …
The critical thinking skills and instincts he tried to erode ended up saving my life
Editor's note: This story is from a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Eve2014." I have what is known as Narcissistic Victim Syndrome, and have suffered from it since I was narcissistically abused* by my father, who was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. I have been diligently and continuously working on myself in therapy for many years, with a slew of diagnoses that are all incorrect. It is only because of my involvement with a psychoanalytic therapist who behaved like a sociopath,** that I have reached the depths of emotional devastation and worked like a demon to solve the mystery. I cannot say whether Dr. X is a sociopath, psychopath, or narcissist, as I am not …
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