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Research reveals men in domestic violence suffer similar effects as women

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Although most reported domestic abuse is committed by men against women, a growing body of research has picked up on the prevalence and significance of domestic violence perpetrated against men, says research published in  Psychology of Men & Masculinity. Men who are abused by their female partners can suffer significant psychological trauma, such as post-traumatic stress disorder, depression and suicidal thoughts, according to two papers published by the American Psychological Association. British researcher Anna Randle, PsyD, lead author of a paper summarizing two decades of research says that a lack of reliable data has led to some confusion in literature on domestic violence …

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My ex-husband and his mother both have narcissistic personality disorder

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Editor's Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call “Mary Agnes.” I married a Narcissist and am SO glad we are not together anymore! It took stupid love-blind me a few years to work out what my Narcissist-ex husband was doing. In short, he was stealing money from my family wealth over the years and giving it to his mother to spend on first class travel, cars, paintings, clothes, etc. I spoke to a psychologist who informed me that it was likely that his mother and he were both narcissistic personality disorders, plus he was co-dependent on his mother. He stole to feed his mother, both of them without empathy. In fact, his mother was really nasty to me t …

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Every week the sociopath hooks up with shemale escorts

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This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call “Carlisia.” The sociopath left me and our son homeless. We were involved six years ago when I became pregnant. He was very upset about the pregnancy and treated me badly, even offered me money to have an abortion. He disappeared from our lives when our son was six months old and found another victim. Three years passed and because something went wrong with my child support I had to contact him again so he can fix it. We started communicating by email and exchanging pictures and he wanted to take me out to dinner to "catch up." I accepted and the love-bombing started all over again. More intense than the first time …

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She is taking everything I own and trying to destroy me

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Editor's Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Victor." I met my wife seven years ago. She was still married but told me her husband was abusive and she was working on a separation with him. He left the home and she bought him out (very little equity in the home). About six months after he left I moved in with her. We became engaged after three years and had a very passionate relationship. I was so proud and happy and we were so close. We married in 2011. Everything was great and we really got along well. I did notice that she would never say sorry for anything she did and it was always me that paid for things. We sold the house after I …

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‘Gone Girl’ and a missed opportunity

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[youtube_sc url=http://youtu.be/Ym3LB0lOJ0o] I went to see Gone Girl this weekend, spurred by reports from several Lovefraud readers that the film reminded them of the psychopaths in their lives. In my opinion, the story was a realistic portrayal of psychopathic behavior until it descended into psychopathic cliché. Here's the official synopsis on GoneGirlMovie.com: GONE GIRL — directed by David Fincher and based upon the global bestseller by Gillian Flynn — unearths the secrets at the heart of a modern marriage. On the occasion of his fifth wedding anniversary, Nick Dunne (Ben Affleck) reports that his beautiful wife, Amy (Rosamund Pike), has gone missing. Under pressure from the pol …

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Study reveals possible neurobiological explanation for good and evil

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For decades scientists have been studying the unique characteristics of the psychopathic brain. Abigail Marsh, a Georgetown University psychologist, wanted to study the complete opposite of the psychopaths, what she refers to as the “anti-psychopaths.” For her research, Marsh chose altruistic kidney donors. These people are ultra do-gooders who are extraordinarily compassionate, prosocial, and empathetic so much so that they will give up a perfectly good kidney just because a stranger needs it. Her findings, recently published in Proceedings of the National Academy of Science, found that the brains of kidney donors looked structurally different from psychopaths, revealing evidence that th …

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I still feel like a fool for being blinded by love

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 Editor's Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Gerald." At age 62, I married a gal I'd been in love with all my life. I'd known her in high school and when I re-connected with her I felt that my two divorces were just dues I had to pay to get "the real thing." I told her that marrying her was like winning the lottery for me. She soon began to manifest some troubling behaviors fabricating supposed cheating incidents that never happened and misunderstanding small incidents. She became hyper-critical of everything I said or did. The first real clue I had to the nature of the problem was when I mentioned a book I'd read, "The Sociopath Next Door." …

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The tragic outcome of 30 years with a sociopath

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Editor's Note: This SPATH tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call “Corrine." I stayed married to a narcisstic personality disordered sociopath for 25 years. He always had mistresses he would throw up in my face and sincerely enjoyed hurting me, through words, looks, violence and strangulation. He used to hurt the children because he knew it would hurt me. I was always dealing with some crisis, real or imagined on his part. I realize now that it was what he used to distance himself so he would not have to be intimate. He never displayed affection, or caring for any of his children (three sons and one daughter). He died two weeks ago and there is nothing in his w …

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Will Jordan offered plea deal of three years in prison

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Will Jordan, of Cherry Hill, New Jersey, was back in court yesterday after being charged with scamming Mischele Lewis of Florence Township. During plea negotiations, Jordan offered to spend a year in the county jail, followed by five years of probation. That deal was rejected by both the victim and the Burlington County, New Jersey, prosecutor. Instead, the prosecutor offered three years in state prison and a lifetime No Contact order. If Jordan rejects this deal, the case will go to trial. Love fraudster accused of scamming Florence woman gets new plea offer, on BurlingtonCountyTimes.com.   …

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I was love bombed into a relationship with a sociopath

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Editor's Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call “Ms Love Bombed.” My involvement with a sociopath lasted five years. I didn't know anything about sociopaths until my therapist told me to look up the definition. That is when I realized I was involved with one. My spath love bombed me the minute we officially met. I had known him only from going to my husband's softball games. The first few years, it was only sex with him. He was living with another woman (which I didn't know for the longest time and he lied to me, saying they were just roommates). I always said I was his whore. He called me names and verbally, emotionally, and mentally abused me. …

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