by Quinn Pierce The Perpetual Victim I don't know how he does it.  It's a skill he continues to practice and perfect, I suppose. What's astonishing is his ability to twist any situation- no matter how absurd- into something where he can paint himself as the victim. Anyone who was even remotely involved in our lives last year would know that my ex-husband reached a new level of vindictive, hurtful behavior.  He manipulated every resource he could access including doctors, courts, school systems, and child services in two states.  It was such a forceful and constant barrage of attacks that I didn't even have time to collect my thoughts before responding. And that was his goal all alo …
Sociopaths and Christmas
In your dreams and desires, Christmas is a wonderful time of the year. You spend time with family and friends. You give and receive thoughtful gifts. If you are religious, you renew your faith. Christmas is supposed to be special. Of course, it doesn't always work out that way, but at least that's your goal. So how do sociopaths view Christmas? In my opinion, sociopaths view Christmas simply as another tool in their manipulation toolbox. They know that Christmas is important to their targets that would be you so they figure out how to use Christmas to advance their agendas. So, if sociopaths are in the love bombing stage, they may shower you with gifts and create unbelievably …
I knew immediately something was wrong, but I felt trapped
Editor's Note:Â This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who posts under the name "sunshinejan." The names in this story have been changed. I married someone I met online after a relatively short courtship that I and friends/family felt was sufficient to answer our questions and made us feel secure as conservative evangelical Christians about his intentions and character. Once I was married and moved out of the country away from my family and gave up my beloved profession and friends to be with him, I knew immediately something was wrong, but I felt trapped. He abused my credit in two countries and lied before and during the marriage about his financial situation. He …
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He makes me believe the lies and sucks me into the drama
Editor's Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who posts by the name "stronginthecity." I am currently in a relationship with a sociopath. I've been with him since June 2013. I was with him before. That relationship ended in 2006, leaving me jobless and depressed because he left the relationship abruptly and literally disappeared. I am a medical professional, so I am the typical target I guess. He resurfaced last year proclaiming his love for me and how much he missed me -- giving three or four reasons, explanations why he left. I kept tabs on him through the years from time to time and found out he was in prison in 2009 for drug charges. He is a constant liar …
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Sarah Strudwick Presents: ‘Dark Souls’ – The Aftermath Talk
Editor's note: Sarah Strudwick, based in the UK, is author of Dark Souls—Healing and recovering from toxic relationships. She has also created a wonderful animation that describes the antics of a sociopath, called Exposing the Mask of Insanity. Sarah Strudwick Presents: 'Dark Souls' — The Aftermath Talk LONDON Saturday 31st January 2015 12.30-2.30 A good way of describing the relationship with a sociopath is to liken it to a Tsunami. Sometimes you are lucky enough to come out of it unscathed but for many you are left with an aftermath which can take days, months or even years to clean up. Five years ago Sarah Strudwick decided to write Dark Souls fresh out of her relationship with a s …
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What if lying for sex were illegal?
A couple of weeks ago, New Jersey Assemblyman Troy Singleton introduced a bill to expand the definition of sexual assault to include "rape by fraud." This is defined as: "An act of sexual penetration to which a person has given consent because the actor has misrepresented the purpose of the act or has represented he is someone he is not." Singleton is the Assemblyman for Burlington County, New Jersey, and one of his constituents is Mischele Lewis, who was seduced and defrauded by William Jordan. When Singleton read about what happened to Mischele, he reached out to her and offered to write a law to protect future victims. Now, the story about the bill has hit the media. …
The sociopath left me to go back to his wife 5 times over the past 14 years
Editor's Note:Â This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Tilly Marie." I've been involved with a sociopath for over 14 years. We met at work and fell in love. At least I did. We were both married to other people at the time, and there has been a merry dance led between myself and his wife ever since -- he leaves her, sets up home with me, kicks me out, there's a dramatic showdown, then he ignores me for weeks or months. This has happened five times in 14 years -- that last time being a few weeks ago. I could never fully understand the reasons why he did this, to me or to her. He's painted me as crazy to her and her as crazy to me. Wash. Rinse. …
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I still can’t believe he convinced me to stay
Editor's Note: This Spath Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Peggy-Elizabeth." I met him in 1997 and eloped in 1998. Even though that little voice inside told me not to, I still married him. I found that I took my vows more seriously than he EVER did. He's cheated on me since day one. He's lied, cheated, stolen money, forged checks, pawned all of MY belongings, used my credit cards, gave my clothes to girlfriends and only he knows what else. Obviously, I didn't know all this then but I had my suspicions, yet when I began distancing myself again, the story of him being a victim of child molestation emerged. This caused a major rift in his family, and now being …
Never send money to Nigerians or others you meet online
Lovefraud received the following email from a reader Just want to know if I am right on this. I am communicating with 4 guys on the Internet and all have asked for money. They have all sent me pictures of them and the kids, to prove they are "real." Also have cell phone numbers. They are all in Nigeria "working" and seem to have one problem or another. One has finished his job and has been paid, but cannot cash the check. He wants me to send him money to come home on; I have refused. One is still working in Nigeria and needs me to repay a loan for him because he cannot send money out of the country...I refused. One cannot use his credit cards in Nigeria and needs me to send him …
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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: Hindsight is 20/20; his love was all a fraud (Part 3 – Escape, Freedom and Love)
Editor's Note: This letter to Lovefraud was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who goes by the name "Lil' Bit." This is a three-part letter. Read Part 1 — The Imbalance. Part 2 — Absolute Power. This is Part 3. We get married and my son goes to trade school Now, it was decided when we left for our honeymoon July of 2010 that the $600 a month X had been collecting since the previous April (and keeping) in rent from my property would become only $300 beginning that August -- allowing my son to then keep $75 weekly for his needs. It was also at this time that my son, following through with his part in our plans for him, began Trade school. He graduated that following May and becam …