Army Staff Sgt. Zachariah Siemers allegedly dumps his wife of 20 years, and their four children, with a bogus divorce decree, then marries another woman. The Army charged him with seven violations of military law—then dropped the case. Read Woman divorced from suspected Army vet bigamist, on Military.com. Link provided by a Lovefraud reader. …
LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: Having a child with a sociopath, I am no longer a mother
Editor's note: The following article was written by a Lovefraud reader who we'll call "WalkonMom." I used to think that "six" was my lucky number. And sometimes, I used to remind myself to show gratitude for six little things, like, the sound of New England leaves as they rustle underfoot, the first snowfall with really huge flakes, each breath flowing in and out, especially when you recognize that you are free for the first time, the scent of your baby's head as you cradle and rock her in your grandmother's rocking chair, the preciousness of each holiday, along with the sacred spirit of wonder that fills you as you see your child grow from year to year. Falling in love, and realizing …
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LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: Just a gigolo
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following e-mail from a reader whom we'll call "Esther." I have experienced so many disturbing relationships since I left my psychopath former husband. I thought relationships could not be any more dysfunctional than my marriage. What I am now discovering is that I am a magnet to these predators. This site and many others have helped me to understand how I doubt my fear response, second guess my feelings and am actually delusional when I project onto others the psychological work that I have done to clear my ego defensiveness, blame, shame and guilt. I want to believe that others will work with me, be kind and Christian. I have found this to be a …
What did the sociopath give me and why is it so hard to let it go?
Editor's Note: The following was posted as a comment by the Lovefraud reader, NewLife43. I thought everyone should see it. I had a small epiphany today while driving back from the grocery store. What, exactly, did the spath give me that I find so difficult to let go? I have been married twice before and when those marriages were over, I was sad and wished that they hadn't ended the way that they had. But neither one of them was like this 8 year relationship! I was still the same person, what was so different this time? Why couldn't I release it and move on with my life? Neither one of my ex-husbands were like the spath. In fact, NO ONE had ever made me feel like he did. And by that I …
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A chilling short film portraying sociopathic domestic violence
I did not experience violence at the hands of my sociopathic husband, and for that I am eternally grateful. But 36 percent of the people who completed the Lovefraud Romantic Partner Survey said they were physically abused, and 34 percent said their lives were threatened. A short film by Sharon Wright, called Tell Me That You Love Me, provides a chillingly accurate depiction of violence in an intimate relationship. It's chilling and accurate because she experienced it. Sharon explains why she made the film in a separate YouTube video. I cannot add anything to her words, except to thank her for making the film. It captures, in a little over five minutes, the horror of domestic violence, …
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Lovefraud Lesson #8: Sociopaths and love bombing
Sociopaths engage in calculated seduction. Donna Andersen explains their most potent weapon. Watch the latest Lovefraud Lesson: Videos …
Woman tells her story of marriage to radio personality Jeff Rense
Melinda Jane Kellogg holds a Ph.D. in physics. Jeff Rense has an alternative radio program. Kellogg listened to the program for more than two years, and then, on Rense's birthday, sent him a "Happy Birthday" email. He responded, they corresponded, they visited, they married. It didn't turn out as Kellogg expected, and she tells the whole story—complete with documentation—on her website. Visit Melinda Jane Kellogg Link supplied by two Lovefraud readers. UPDATE: More of the story is available on HenryMakow.com. …
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Lovefraud Lesson #7: Sociopaths trap us into making promises
Donna Andersen explains why we should not feel obligated to keep promises made to sociopaths. Watch the latest episode of Lovefraud Lessons here: Videos …
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I’m addicted to him
Editor's note: The following was posted as a comment by the Lovefraud reader "Zootowngirl." She eloquently expressed ideas that many other readers can certainly understand. I read the articles and comments posted on Lovefraud.com and I see my life, or parts of it, described over and over again. I see things my ex did (or didn't do) written in the words of other people. I see myself in their stories. Often I find myself thinking, “Thank God my experience wasn't that bad or that long,” and other times I nod my head in silent, humiliated understanding that comes with first hand knowledge of the horror stories people share. My ex has the most beautiful soul. He is kind and compassionate and …
Lovefraud Lesson #6: Sociopaths and sex
Many, many people who have been romantically involved with sociopaths have told me that the sex was the best they ever had. In my latest video, I explain why. Watch Lovefraud Lesson #6: Sociopaths and sex on the Videos page. …