By Amber Ault, Ph.D. One of the many difficult questions survivors of toxic relationships ask themselves is “why is it so hard to leave someone who treats me so badly?” As rational people, we recognize that a relationship is extremely problematic and believe that the rational course of action would be just to stop the drama. And yet. And yet, this is usually harder than it sounds. While there are practical and logistical barriers to people exiting, the emotional resistance to leaving is usually present even when there aren't kids or property or business deals or divorce laws slowing us down. What accounts for this? Why is it so common? Social science has some insights that hel …
Help for Overcoming the Trauma of Facing the Abuser in Court
After suffering the trauma of domestic violence, many victims are terrified to face their abusers in court. The federal Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) can offer support, so in recognition of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Lovefraud Continuing Education presents the online course, "Surviving Court When You're Traumatized" on Oct. 17 and 25, 2016. Domestic violence victims often suffer from anxiety, depression and post-traumatic stress disorder, explains Dr. Karin Huffer, an adjunct professor at the John Jay College of Criminal Justice and author of the course. When victims must appear in court with the abuser for divorce, child custody or other legal matters, their symptoms may …
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Coping with Stalking: How to overcome fear and fight back
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/ltxOgf0bIO0" title="Coping%20with%20Stalking%20-%20How%20to%20overcome%20fear%20and%20fight%20back"] Lovefraud Continuing Education webinar Coping with Stalking: How to overcome fear and fight back strategies from a woman who's done it Presented by Vicki Kuper Monday, August 29, 2016 • 8-9 p.m. Eastern More info Someone won't leave you alone. This person follows you, calls or texts constantly, shows up at your home or workplace, sends you unwanted gifts, or threatens you. As a result, you feel vulnerable, unsafe, anxious, stressed and afraid. You are being stalked. Vicki Kuper knows exactly what you're going through. She lived it. The man who s …
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When we stop wishing the past were different, we can recover from destructive relationships
Lovefraud Continuing Education webinar: The Miracle in The Madness —Pathway to healing from destructive relationships Presented by Travis F. Vining Thursday, Sept. 8, 2016 • 8-9 p.m. ET More info By Travis F. Vining It may sound silly, or even impossible to some who read this, but all we need to change the misery in our lives from pain to joy is a simple realignment of our perspective. Experience reveals the truth in this statement, but unfortunately, the process that facilitates this shift from misery to miracle is one of the most widely misunderstood concepts in the world ”¦ forgiveness. Not only is forgiveness commonly misunderstood, but in some cases, it is intensely disliked and invok …
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Tina Swithin, author of ‘Divorcing a Narcissist’ to explain what they’re talking about
Divorcing a narcissist is my superpower — what is yours? By Tina Swithin, author of OneMomsBattle.com and Divorcing a Narcissist In 2009, I discovered that there is only one thing worse than being married to a narcissist and that is divorcing a narcissist. Being someone who cringes at the mere thought of conflict, I was not prepared for the onslaught of attacks, lies and character assassinations that were launched at me. Even though I had been told by a therapist that my ex-husband was a “narcissist,” I had no idea that the horrific attacks were to be expected while going through a divorce with someone who suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Email, text messages and the teleph …
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Travis Vining, son of a serial killer, talks about healing from destructive relationships
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/eaqU-ewn4gY" title="Travis%20Vining,%20the%20son%20of%20a%20serial%20killer,%20talks%20about%20healing%20from%20destructive%20relationships"] We try to ignore the agony of betrayal, hoping it will go away. Paradoxically, says Travis Vining, author of Transforming Darkness to Light for Giving, it's not in spite of our difficulties that we find freedom, but because of them. Travis Vining will be presenting a Lovefraud Continuing Education webinar called, The Miracle in the Madness - the pathway to healing from destructive relationships. He will explain how to gently, courageously, overcome the pain of betrayal by a sociopath. Travis' goal is to offer the ex …
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Tina Swithin, author of OneMomsBattle.com, presents ‘Understanding the language of a narcissist’ on Lovefraud CE
Lovefraud is very pleased to announce that Tina Swithin, author of the well-known website, OneMomsBattle.com, will be presenting an important Lovefraud CE webinar: Understanding the Language of a Narcissist During a Divorce or Custody Battle Tuesday, August 9, 8-9 pm ET Recording subsequently available on demand Tina knows from first-hand experience the madness anyone trying to divorce a narcissist encounters. She says: Looking back, the red flags had been waving in the wind since our very first date. Those flags grew larger and more vibrant during our marriage. As it turns out, those same red flags that had been lining my path for years were dipped in highly flammable kerosene. I realized …
Escaping the Sociopath and Rebuilding Your Life
Perhaps you now know that you're involved with a sociopath or other disordered individual. You've been Googling "sociopath" "psychopath" and "narcissist" like crazy, and found that a lot of what you read matches the behavior that you see. So now what? What do you do? That's what I will explain in Part 3 of the Lovefraud Recovery Series. The webinar takes place Thursday, June 30, at 8 pm Eastern time. Escaping the Sociopath and Rebuilding Your Life Here is some of what I will explain: What NOT to do when you learn of your partner's betrayal Do you fight or cut your losses and run? Tips and strategies for lawsuits, divorce and child custody battles What can help when your …
How to recover from a sociopathic partner
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/ivfmgtYTLWo" title="How%20to%20recover%20from%20a%20sociopathic%20partner"] If you've discovered that your partner is an exploiter, and you don't know what to think and what to do well, I totally understand. I've been there. That's why I developed the Lovefraud Recovery Series. These three webinars, each one hour long, will help you comprehend what you are dealing with and figure out how to move forward: June 16 - Sociopathic Seduction: How you got hooked and why you stayed (If you missed it, watch the recording) More info June 23 - What Did They Want? Psychopaths, antisocials and other exploiters in romantic relationships More info June 30 - E …
Therapists: Here’s how to help clients leave a toxic relationship
Clients may know that they are unhappy, anxious and depressed because of their relationships, but they can't seem to leave. In fact, they become confused just by thinking about leaving. How can you best serve them? The Five Step Exit model will help. This program, developed by Dr. Amber Ault, is specifically designed to help you help clients in a structured fashion. You guide them to evaluate their circumstances, create an exit strategy, put together a support team, move forward with the plan, and then reclaim their lives. Dr. Ault will teach you exactly how to do it in an online webinar on Wednesday, June 15, 2016, from 2 -4 p.m. Eastern time. You will be able to ask questions of …
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