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Here we go again — holiday drama time

Amber Ault, Ph,D., MSW

By Amber Ault, Ph.D., MSW

Our ancestors in Northern latitudes exercised deep wisdom when they burrowed in during the dark of winter, reflecting on the turning of the wheel of the year through its previous cycle of renewal, harvest, and loss, gathering with loved ones to share warmth in myriad ways, and beginning to dream of spring.

By December 12, 2017 1 Comments

Two women targeted by the same sociopath tell their stories to the BBC

(Serge Bertasius Photography at FreeDigitalPhotos.net)

He was charming, magnetic, successful, and he had chosen her — Nicole. Everything was perfect at first, but eventually there were problems — and they were always her fault. He said she ruined everything.

Nicole did her best to make him happy, to be a better girlfriend. Eventually, though, she escaped and collapsed.

From her therapist, Nicole learned that what she had experienced was not normal behavior; it was abuse. The therapist also suggested that she contact his previous girlfriend.

So Nicole ended up talking to Elizabeth, and learned that she’d endured exactly the same behavior.

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By December 11, 2017 6 Comments

5 steps to get the sociopath out of your head

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I once heard from a woman whom we’ll call “Rochelle.” When Rochelle was in her 50s, through a high school reunion, she reconnected with the first boy she ever loved. Rochelle had a crush on him when she was 14. They dated for almost five years, although he always seemed to have an eye out for other girls. When they broke up, Rochelle was heartbroken, but she moved on, married, divorced, and life was reasonably good—until that first love came back into her life.

By December 9, 2017 0 Comments

Lovefraud Webinar Preview: Love and Exploitation – save 20%

Therapists: Do you need continuing education credits by the end of the year? All Lovefraud webinars are 20% off until Jan. 1, 2018, and continuing education credits are available for psychologists and social workers.

Love and Exploitation, Parts 1 and 2, is an excellent overview of how to recognize and work with clients who may have disordered partners. It is presented by Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, CHT, who has extensive experience in treating these clients — people who are experiencing natural reactions to a destructive relationship.

About this course

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW offers free online support group Dec. 17th at 5 pm EDT.

Mary Ann GlynnExperience the support of people who know!  Join our free online video  support group Sunday, December 17, 2017 at 5 pm EDT.  Go to  www.destructiverelationshipshelp.com and use the Contact Form at the bottom of the home page to state your interest in joining.  Do this every time even if you have joined us before!  Include your Skype user name so we can confirm it and you can be added to the contact list for the group call.  If you cannot open a Skype account, send your phone number.

Share your struggles, questions, get feedback and clarity from people who get it.  Hope to see you there!

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By December 8, 2017 8 Comments

11 Answers to questions about sociopaths

Man with maskI heard from Lovefraud reader who realizes that she’s been in a relationship with a sociopath. She’s in the phase of trying to wrap her brain around about what these people are, and sent me the following email:

What happens to these people?  These sociopaths?  How do they end up in life?  Do they just go from victim to victim?  Have any of them ever realized the affliction of which they suffer?  Do they ever realize they are not capable of love?  If they are not capable of love, they will never be happy, right?  So…you could present “Red Flags of Love Fraud” to a sociopath and they would not see themselves in it, correct?  Do they ever see the error of their ways?  There is a rather cryptic site called Narcissism Cured, but that doesn’t seem to be possible.

By December 7, 2017 6 Comments

It’s never a fair fight with a sociopath, and that’s how they want it

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of  my book,”Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, use the links at the bottom of the post.

I’ve also just released a new ebook titled Narcissists, SOCIOPATHS & Wolves: Lessons From Little Red Riding Hood. (Just click here to find it on Amazon.com Narcissists SOCIOPATHS & Wolves.)

Chapter 56B:  It’s Not Over Until Paul Says It’s Over

By December 6, 2017 2 Comments

My sociopathic husband denied – with outrage and tears – what turned out to be the terrible truth

In our tiny upper flat, I took all the vitamins and folic acid tablets never available to my pregnant foremothers. I ate well, our table a rainbow of green, orange and yellow every day. I drank a concoction called Tiger’s Milk, thrilled to nourish the growth of my child within, a baby I loved with all my heart.

One sunny day, while Stan, my then-husband, subbed for the Toronto School Board, I sat on the carpeted floor near our tiny attic window, a pillow to my back, and gazed at an astonishing Time Life photo of a baby inside a mother’s womb. I had no idea how it had been taken, but it inspired me to draw a woven basket so full of colorful spring flowers they toppled over the sides, a welcome home card for my soon-to-be-born baby. I was lost in art when the phone jangled.

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By December 5, 2017 0 Comments

Learning that her father was a lying, cheating sociopath

Gift of loving a cheater


When she discovered her father, who had always been her hero, had been conducting extramarital affairs for decades, Jasmin Rosemberg, wondered if she had inherited his traits. A journalist, she wrote about her fears on LennyLetter.com:

“What if I’d inherited his inability to commit, his desire to win and dominate other people rather than connect, his incapacity to truly feel and love?”

The pain of her discovery, she writes, quite possibly saved her.

Following in a sociopathic parent’s path, on LennyLetter.com.



By December 4, 2017 5 Comments

Women aged 40-70: Be on the lookout for Internet predators like Tom Guida

Tom Guida, of Toms River, New Jersey, was accused of bigamy, but got away with it.

More than two years ago, Lovefraud posted about Tom Guida, age 55, of New Jersey. This guy is unbelievable. He finds women online, tells them he is a Ph.D. psychologist (lie), Special Operations military (lie), and suffering from brain cancer (lie).

He tells the women he loves them (lie) and then proposes marriage. He doesn’t tell them he is already married (truth). In fact, he’s a bigamist.

Here’s the Lovefraud story:

Tom Guida, aka Tom Gatto – fake psychologist, fake Special Forces, fake brain cancer patient – gets away with bigamy

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