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By July 12, 2017 1 Comments

How, as a child, I was groomed to be a people pleaser

By Eleanor Cowan

“Shut your big mouth and buzz off!” my mother exploded at me as she slammed a boiling hot cloth against my brother’s face – her cure for his chronic swollen acne.

“Do you know how much money your pimple treatment costs this family?” screamed mother. Pressing on another steaming square, she ignored Gordie’s pitiful cries. Slightly taller than my mother, my brother’s strong-muscled arms trembled at each side as tears streamed down his face.

A capable teenager, he could have landed her on the kitchen floor in an instant. Or, he could have run.

By July 10, 2017 12 Comments

Dear Friend: Please do not take back your sociopathic partner

Photo by David Castillo Dominici

Editor’s note: This is the letter that everyone who has broken up with a sociopathic partner should receive. (It refers to the sociopath as “he,” but the sociopath can also be “she.”)

Dear Friend,

We’ve known each other for a long time. We’ve been there for each other through thick and thin. I care about you, even though I haven’t been able to spend much time with you recently — ever since he came into your life.

I heard that the two of you have broken up. I’m thrilled.

By July 8, 2017 1 Comments

I Had No Idea What This Person Is

I’ve been lied to so much.. that one day I woke up you can only sleep so long, before God starts revealing the truth to you..and Lord only knows !!! how much I’ve PRAYED for an answer.

Socipathic eyesI’ve found out that this person has slept with men and women and will not confess to madness.

This person has slept with family members, mothers, brothers, and etc…

has people everywhere and most of all has people whom will lie as well.

insane and hideous….hiding under the word of God.

By July 7, 2017 1 Comments

How to get a restraining order against a sociopath

defendant with lawyer speaking to a judge in the courtroom

New Lovefraud Continuing Education Webinar!

Obtaining Injunctions Against a Sociopath
Presented by Megan M. Lyons, Esq.
Tuesday, Aug. 1 • 8 – 9 pm ET • $25

The sociopath won’t leave you alone. He or she is harassing you, stalking you, perhaps threatening you. You want a court order to make the abuse stop.

How do you get it? But even more importantly, should you get it?

These are the issues that attorney Megan M. Lyons will address in her new Lovefraud CE webinar, Obtaining Injunctions Against a Sociopath. If you’re thinking about pursuing a restraining order, you need this information.

By July 6, 2017 3 Comments

A New York model’s marriage to a sociopath

Jen Waite

Three weeks after her baby was born, Jen Waite, a model and actress in New York City, discovered that her husband was having an affair.

In fact, while she was in labor, he kept disappearing to call his girlfriend.

Jen has just come out with a book called, A Beautiful, Terrible Thing, in which she tells her story.

In an interview with the New York Post, she calls her husband a sociopath. Based on the article, it sounds like she’s right.

My husband’s secret double life, on NYPost.com.


Jen Waite, 32, a model and

Posted in: Book reviews
By July 5, 2017 4 Comments

Sociopaths are “spin” and misrepresentation experts. To protect yourself, document everything!

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 48:  Toxic Emails

By July 3, 2017 8 Comments

10 reasons why the fireworks of a romance with a sociopath are duds

In honor of July 4th, let’s talk about fireworks — the really dangerous kind. These are the fireworks that you feel exploding all around you early in your relationship with someone who later turns out to be a sociopath. Here’s what you see and experience, and what it really going on.


You see: Nonstop texts, emails and social media postings

Reality: You’re not the only one receiving them. The Internet and social media make it easy for sociopaths to work multiple targets at once, and they do.


You experience: Conversations that last for hours

By July 1, 2017 0 Comments

Anniversary Sale: All 3 printed Lovefraud books, 57% off!

All 3 Lovefraud books

Lovefraud.com launched in July 2005, so we’re celebrating 12 years online! In honor of our anniversary, you can buy all three of Donna Andersen’s printed books for $24.50 — a savings of 57%.

Red Flats of Love Fraud – 10 signs you’re dating a sociopath

This self-help book reveals, for the first time, the tactics of social predators who pursue romantic relationships not for love, but for exploitation. You’ll learn how sociopaths seduce their targets, why it’s hard to escape the relationships, and how you can protect yourself.

Red Flags of Love Fraud Workbook

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, offers free video chat on July 9th at 8 pm EDT.

Mary Ann GlynnExperience the support of people who know!  Join our free online video chat support group Sunday, July 9, 2017 at 8 pm EDT at www.destructiverelationshipshelp.com.  Share your struggles and get feedback, support, and hope from others who get it.  Hope to see you there!

Here’s how to join:

We’re going to try something different this time – a video chat.  Please let us know your intention to join ahead of time by using the Contact Form at the bottom of the home page so we can send you a link to the video chat room.

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By June 30, 2017 0 Comments

If your client doubts herself, is it low self-esteem? Or an exploitative relationship?


Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, CHT, will present the webinars, “Love and Exploitation.”

Suppose you’re a therapist and a new client walks into your office. This person appears confused, full of self-doubt and self-blame. What might you think might be causing your client’s problems?

  1. Anxiety
  2. Low self-esteem
  3. An exploitative relationship

If you’re like most therapists, you probably wouldn’t even think of option 3 — an exploitative relationship. But Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, CHT, explains that confusion, self-doubt and self-blame are almost universally experienced by people who are being exploited and manipulated by their intimate partners.

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