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Donald Trump, Hillary (and Bill) Clinton – narcissists with psychopathic features

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I am truly depressed about the upcoming presidential election. Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton (and Bill Clinton, who comes with Hillary) have serious character flaws that I believe make them unfit to be president of the United States. The talking heads on TV have been practically foaming at the mouth as they disparage whichever candidate they don't support. Unfortunately, they have plenty of legitimate material to work with. Just when you think Donald Trump can't say anything more incendiary, he does. And just when one Clinton scandal dies down, another one surfaces. I don't personally know any of the candidates. But some people who do know them have written tell-all articles and books …

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Coping with Stalking: How to overcome fear and fight back

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[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/ltxOgf0bIO0" title="Coping%20with%20Stalking%20-%20How%20to%20overcome%20fear%20and%20fight%20back"] Lovefraud Continuing Education webinar Coping with Stalking: How to overcome fear and fight back strategies from a woman who's done it Presented by Vicki Kuper Monday, August 29, 2016 • 8-9 p.m. Eastern More info Someone won't leave you alone. This person follows you, calls or texts constantly, shows up at your home or workplace, sends you unwanted gifts, or threatens you. As a result, you feel vulnerable, unsafe, anxious, stressed and afraid. You are being stalked. Vicki Kuper knows exactly what you're going through. She lived it. The man who s …

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When we stop wishing the past were different, we can recover from destructive relationships

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Lovefraud Continuing Education webinar: The Miracle in The Madness —Pathway to healing from destructive relationships Presented by Travis F. Vining Thursday, Sept. 8, 2016 • 8-9 p.m. ET More info By Travis F. Vining It may sound silly, or even impossible to some who read this, but all we need to change the misery in our lives from pain to joy is a simple realignment of our perspective. Experience reveals the truth in this statement, but unfortunately, the process that facilitates this shift from misery to miracle is one of the most widely misunderstood concepts in the world ”¦ forgiveness. Not only is forgiveness commonly misunderstood, but in some cases, it is intensely disliked and invok …

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Tina Swithin, author of OneMomsBattle.com, presents ‘Understanding the language of a narcissist’ on Lovefraud CE

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Lovefraud is very pleased to announce that Tina Swithin, author of the well-known website, OneMomsBattle.com, will be presenting an important Lovefraud CE webinar: Understanding the Language of a Narcissist During a Divorce or Custody Battle Tuesday, August 9, 8-9 pm ET Recording subsequently available on demand Tina knows from first-hand experience the madness anyone trying to divorce a narcissist encounters. She says: Looking back, the red flags had been waving in the wind since our very first date. Those flags grew larger and more vibrant during our marriage. As it turns out, those same red flags that had been lining my path for years were dipped in highly flammable kerosene. I realized …

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My new dog offers a lesson in letting go

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  Meet my new dog, Bo. My husband, Terry, and I brought him home from a shelter on Thursday. I've been meaning to get a dog ever since my previous dog, Beau, died of old age. That was more than 13 years ago. What took so long? I never felt like I had the time or the energy for another dog then suddenly, more than a decade slipped by. My first dog, Beau Beau was with me when I met my sociopathic ex-husband. During all the confusion and upheaval of my fake marriage to James Montgomery, my dog was the loyal companion that my husband should have been. After two and a half years with Montgomery, I discovered that my entire marriage was a scam. I left him, and Beau was my comfort. As …

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‘Coercive control:’ Domestic violence without the physical abuse

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In an article in the New York Times, writer Abby Ellin explains the concept of "coercive control" a pattern of behavior in which one partner in a romantic relationship dominates his or her partner. She writes: Coercive control describes an ongoing and multipronged strategy, with tactics that include manipulation, humiliation, isolation, financial abuse, stalking, gaslighting and sometimes physical or sexual abuse. England and Wales have just passed a law making coercive or controlling behavior a form of domestic violence. The United States should do the same. With coercive control, the abuse is psychological, on NYTimes.com.   …

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On Independence Day: 6 Strategies to break free of the sociopath

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  Happy 4th of July! In honor of Independence Day, here are six strategies for breaking free of a sociopath, psychopath, narcissist or some other exploiter. Choose the right strategy for your situation, and declare your independence! The No Nonsense Rejection Statement If you were dealing with normal people, you might want spare their feelings or let them down easy. But if you're seeing the Red Flags of Love Fraud and you suspect you're dealing with a sociopath, don't worry about hurting their feelings because they don't have any. If it's early in the involvement, and neither of you have much invested, you can use the rejection statement approach to get away. Here's what you …

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When Katherine Morris, 22, died suddenly, police ruled it suicide, but her mother continues to investigate

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  Four years ago, Katherine Morris, a young woman who was two weeks away from graduating from the University of Maryland, died suddenly. The police said the death was suicide. Her mother, Rev. Marguerite Morris isn't so sure and she is still working to uncover the truth. Katherine Morris was married to a soldier, Isaac Goodwin. But her mother contends that the marriage was a sham, that Goodwin married just to defraud the government of Basic Allowance for Housing pay, and he was never held accountable. In fact, Goodwin received a $100,000 insurance payout for Katherine's death. Lovefraud wrote about this tragic story previously. You can see it here: Army Specialist Isaac Goodwin …

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Escaping the Sociopath and Rebuilding Your Life

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  Perhaps you now know that you're involved with a sociopath or other disordered individual. You've been Googling "sociopath" "psychopath" and "narcissist" like crazy, and found that a lot of what you read matches the behavior that you see. So now what? What do you do? That's what I will explain in Part 3 of the Lovefraud Recovery Series. The webinar takes place Thursday, June 30, at 8 pm Eastern time. Escaping the Sociopath and Rebuilding Your Life Here is some of what I will explain: What NOT to do when you learn of your partner's betrayal Do you fight or cut your losses and run? Tips and strategies for lawsuits, divorce and child custody battles What can help when your …

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The high cost of rape – in pain and dollars

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Editor's note: The following article was written by the Lovefraud reader, "Jennifer in NYC." The New York Times OP-ED article, “What One Rape Cost Our Family” (Friday, June 24, 2016), by the California-based, freelance journalist, Laura Hilgers, chronicles the years of devastation her family faced after her daughter was raped by a fellow student while attending a college in Washington D.C. .  A freshman at the time, her daughter, Willa, waited one year before she reported the crime.  However, during this time she developed “...post-traumatic stress disorder, panic attacks, depression, and an an addiction to alcohol.  And while she chose not to file criminal charges—out of fear of being traum …

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