Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a man whom we'll call "Evan." We were together for four years. He discarded me out of the blue one day for someone he had known 2 weeks. It wasn't until after the discard I discovered that everything I had thought I knew about him was a lie. I also found out he had been cheating on me, with God knows how many people, our entire relationship. At last count, I could confirm 10. I cannot confirm that any of the individuals he cheated on me with were female, but I heard stories and have my suspicions. I do know for certain he attempted a sexual encounter with our good friend and neighbor, who is a married female, but aside from that, I …

After the discard, I discovered everything I thought I knew about him was a lieRead More

Editors Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Sawyer" 1. Started talking in October, she met me through my sister's Facebook. She saw a pic of me that my sister posted with my niece. She winked in the comments and added me on Facebook on October 2nd. 2. Month of October, started talking a little on Facebook, we did not talk a lot. Setup a date for her and I to go eat at Zukies asked if she liked Japanese food she said yes. She did not show up, said that she got into a fight with her mom and could not come. I talked to her told her I could come pick her up, she said she was embarrassed about where she lived and did not want me to see it. So I just said …

She was almost like a drug that I was addicted toRead More

Editors Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who goes by the name  of"Thinking Girl". The names in this story have been changed. The sociopath was a man 18 years my junior. He targeted me while I lectured at the university where he did a degree. He was not my student. He would follow me around, stalk me practically until after a year he wore me down with his attentions. He was always helpful, but wanted my help as a mentor. I was going through a separation from my husband. The psychopath wormed his way into my life. He was charming and had an elaborate story about being the son of a billionaire from Texas. His name is Alan. He said he belonged to the Haliburton Oil f …

The psychopath wormed his way into my lifeRead More

Editor's Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who goes by the name "simpleme56." I came from an abusive childhood, an abusive marriage, and worked hard for over thirty years to heal, to educate myself to be able to understand the dynamics of my abuser and move forward in my life. I'm not 100% healed. But I came to terms with my life and began to move forward with education and professional jobs. And at 48 I met who I thought was the most incredible man I had ever met. I thought I was smart and was very careful waiting a year to see if the other shoe would drop and it didn't. I made a huge decision to finally walk away from a loveless, emotionally abusive marriage, te …

Back and forth, from the abusive husband to the sociopathic boyfriendRead More

By Nava Renek I should have suspected something was wrong last year during March Madness when we'd gone to a neighborhood bar to watch the Final Four. At half-time, a lively woman with short gray hair in a pixie cut wandered over and struck up a conversation with us. She seemed a little tipsy but was friendly enough, and as we continued talking, we agreed to meet her next door at another bar where she claimed a good band was playing. She said she was planning her 60th birthday, and after a few more shots of tequila, I had the feeling she was trying to pick us up. When she finally leaned into me and asked if we were monogamous, I answered “yes.” My partner said: “no.” We didn't take her up on …

Five Ways To Know He’s Not Here To StayRead More

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Annalise." Experts say date 2 years before you can fully know someone, so here's my story: Despite pouring over these websites and reading blog after blog to educate myself and heal myself, I've let another unsuspected sociopath into my life, or maybe I've know all along. So the first sociopath was an 8 month roller coaster with red flags everywhere, despite his coming off a 20 year marriage with a 15 year management job. He was on the higher end of the scale. And despite the stability with his first marriage and job: he truly was the Devil's child and it haunts me to this day. This other guy that I dated …

After a superficial two-year courtship, calling it quitsRead More

Editor's note: The following was written by the Lovefraud reader who posts as "Mother.Love." Married him and had 2 children. After the second child we decided I could stay home as his construction business was doing well. During that time, we remodeled a home, I was diagnosed with Breast Cancer and survived twice and raised 2 children with learning disabilities. He wanted to build a new home and he became involved with a "spec" house. Unbeknownst to me he took out all the equity in the first house, lied to me about paying our taxes for 5 years, refused to set me up with a retirement account but he had one, didn't pay bills for 3 years, emptied all his accounts, was cheating on me while I was …

It’s like the authorities are all assisting my sociopathic ex in the fraudRead More