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Spath Tales / Letters to Lovefraud

Are these warning signs that I’m involved with a sociopath?

Editor’s Note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we’ll call “Cassandra18.”

I’ve been a longtime reader of your website and wanted to thank you for what a valuable tool it is. I figured, I’d finally write in with a question of my own and I was hoping for some feedback from you.

So, the thing is, I have a propensity to date very selfish, controlling people and two of my past relationships have been with verifiable sociopaths.

Most recently, I have been in and out of a relationship with a man I used to work with. Something keeps telling me that something is off about him but I can’t pinpoint it.

A warning letter to the next victim from the third ‘psycho’ wife

Spath TalesEditor’s note: Yesterday Lovefraud posted a story from a woman in Australia whom we’ll call “Shawna18.” Read it here: I left the sociopath once I had everything back he stole from me and humiliated me in the process. She also wrote a letter to the next victim.

“After 3 years of no contact I decided against all advice from the professionals to warn the new victim,” Shawna18 says. “It doesn’t matter if she believes me or not, what matters is that if I planted a seed of doubt, then I will have done my job, unlike all the other women who knew him and didn’t have the balls to warn me about him.”

I left the sociopath once I had everything back he stole from me and humiliated him in the process

Spath TalesEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a woman in Australia whom we’ll call “Shawna18.” Tomorrow read Shawna’s letter that she wrote to the next victim.

Love bombed, soul mate within 1st day. Returned to his ex-wife, then returned to me when ex-wife didn’t give him what he needed.

Moved from Qld to Melb to be with him. Lived together four years, loneliest years of my life.

Married me while he was seeing another woman who he continued to see for the next 3 years until caught. Divorced him immediately.

Is he a narc? Is he really hurt, or just his ego is hurt?

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we’ll call “Vania.” English is not her first language.

I think my ex is a narc but I’m still not sure. So I’ve been in a relationship with this guy for just 3 months. But it means a lot to me because I’m someone who’s super not easy to open up with people, so once I did and once I fall, I will fall so hard. And I also think I am an empath.

My tortured journey to discover the sociopathic truth behind the coincidences

Editor’s note: The following story was written by the Lovefraud reader from Australia who goes by the name “Acharbet.” He says,The names I use below are false in order to protect the innocent, guilty and bystanders. I have preserved people’s genders in their names, but have obscured ethnicities, which I consider to be irrelevant to my story.”

As mine is a convoluted story, a tortured story, and clearly not a terribly customary story, I am not going to write it in a terribly customary way. I will use no firm and fixed chronology. Instead, I am going to reveal events in the order in which their truths revealed themselves to me.

The sociopath came on strong and romantic — it was all a fraud

Spath TalesEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we’ll call “Wilma18.”

The sociopath was engaged to my daughter. She is a very trusting and caring person. She was living in a town that was not close to family or friends and met this sociopath on a dating website.

He lied to her from the beginning about past relationships. He came on strong and romantic. She doesn’t fall for men quickly, but he was patient and after six months she was in love with him (his scam).

Lovefraud reader tries online dating, spots warning signs, dumps the guy

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we’ll call “Marjory18.”

When I got involved with a bad person last year I wrote in to you with my story.

I have been committed to reading stories, articles etc on your Lovefraud site.

All I can say is thank goodness for your site and the info you provide.

I had another online date recently

Signs were there. 

  • My mama raised me right (was told to me before)
  • Super charming
  • Tons of compliments
  • Lots of sexual talk (on the first date?)

How one guy’s recent girlfriends meets all of the 10 Red Flags of Love Fraud

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we’ll call “Trevor18.”

I came across your work after I spent about two months in the craziest relationship I’ve ever experienced. The relationship and how it abruptly ended left me feeling confused and then I was compelled to seek answers. I just didn’t know what to do. Then I stumbled upon Cluster B personality disorders and eventually I found your list of 10 signs of dating a sociopath.

1: Charisma/Charm

My heart breaks for my three beautiful daughters who are no longer part of my life – Part 4

Editor’s note: Following is a series of letters sent by a Lovefraud reader, whom we’ll call “Grace18.” Other names are also changed. Read Part 1, Part 2, Part 3 and Part 4.

As a woman, having been involved on the sidelines with women of many age groups for decades, who were victims of abuse, I found that the one group, constantly being forgotten was the “older” generation. So many of these women, were the mothers….the grandmothers….the aunts, who carried the work load and the child-rearing in dignity, while holding onto their secrets.

Because I had such a variety of friends covering ages above me and coming up behind me, the stories existed with that silence.

My heart breaks for my three beautiful daughters who are no longer part of my life – Part 3

Editor’s note: Following is Part 3 of a series of letters sent by a Lovefraud reader, whom we’ll call “Grace18.” Other names are also changed. Read Part 1, Part 2, Part 3 and Part 4.

Maybe my story will help a mother….a daughter…..a sister. I have become a parking lot preacher, when young people take out my grocery cart. Holding onto them for five min. or so and asking them if they are going onto college…..what they are studying…if they plan on leaving this small “no hope” county?

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