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Recovery from a sociopath

Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 17: UNDERSTAND


Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 16: VISUALISE

When we visualise, we normally form a mental image of something. If you have ever paid attention to the kind of mental pictures while browsing the lovefraud pages, since you first came across to this site, you have probably been petrified. You probably considered yourself a well-educated, well-rounded person, with great empathy, affection, attention and care for all, but you probably felt like a zebra chased by a lion, a fish caught by a bear or a rabbit tortured by a fox. It’s impossible for anyone to understand a predator and a prey relationship unless they have been a victim too. When you feel like you’re in a war, all the scenes of the bloodshed seem to keep coming back like uninvited guests. You wish to get over those mental pictures for once and for all, but it seems like a daunting task, turning into a mentally dangerous loop.


Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 15: DREAM

Have you ever wondered where your childhood toys are? The toys you used to play with, imagine with and dream with, what happened to them? That little racing car, the noisy steam train, that beautiful doll… Your mind is probably travelling 30, 40, 50 years back wondering about your lost toys. Well, I have lost my childhood toys too, I just don’t know where they are. But let’s think for a second, what else has gone missing with those toys… Imagination. Why don’t we dream and imagine the same way we used to when playing with our childhood toys?


Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 14: WORK OUT

If you were to tell people you are going for a run a few decades ago, they would wonder who is chasing you. Times have changed… Now working out is considered part of our healthy lifestyle. It seems like the industrial and modern hi-tech revolutions have transformed our lifestyle choices. We could spend the entire day operating fancy devices and machines without much physical activity.


Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 13: GET OUT

How would you feel or rather what would you do if I were to sneak behind you right now and dump a bucket full of ice cold water over your head? I don’t know about you, but I am guessing I would get a black eye! Why wouldn’t you like a fresh cold water showering all over you, cleansing and invigorating your entire body, what’s wrong with that? I am guessing your answer is, that it is simply discomforting, it is a very awkward thing to do and it just makes you feel cold, your clothes wet, messes up the area you are in right now and so on. In other words, it throws you off, it takes you out of your comfort zone.


10 lessons from the mistakes we made with sociopaths

Many years ago, I attended a workshop presented by Patricia Sun, a pioneer of the self-awareness movement. One of the things she talked about was shifting our views about making mistakes.

We tend to fear making mistakes, and when we do make mistakes, we berate ourselves. But in reality, mistakes are a part of life. There are no instruction manuals for most of the choices we make. Life, therefore, is a series of decisions made mostly by trial and error. We never progress in a straight line towards out goals. We have false starts and detours, but with time and persistence, we get to where we want to go.

Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 12: BPOSITIVE

Gone are the times when apples and blackberries were simply fruits and hard drive was a difficult journey. Times are changing friends…There is something about bananas though that has always caught my attention. They always seem to smile at me. Does this ever happen to you? If not, I will tell you a secret – every time you buy a banana or just before savouring one, pause for a moment and hold it sideways. Without any exaggeration, it flashes cartoon eyes, smiles wide and winks at you. If you want to check it for yourself, please try it out and share your comments here. Be positive!


Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 11: BGRATEFUL


Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 10: WAKE UP

How do you wake up when you feel traumatised? Your answer is likely to be one of these two – you either cannot fall asleep in the first place, still thinking what the hell happened, or you snooze and keep snoozing, because there doesn’t seem to be any compelling reason to wake up… Some people don’t sleep because of insomnia, some others can’t sleep because of an internet connection but you probably can’t wake up because you are addicted to escaping the reality.


Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 9: HOLD ON

If you are like me, you have probably figured out pretty quick that it hurts to let go, but at times it hurts even more to hold on. This practice is not really an understanding of holding on to people or things that matter for us, but rather an interpretation of holding on to the precious sparkling diamond inside us.


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