Recovery from a sociopath

Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, reminds us of the beauty and power of the Serenity Prayer, and how it can help us let go of what no longer supports us. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest As you've landed on this site, I'm guessing you've been slammed with a lot of lessons on "letting go." Perhaps you've had to let go of dreams, your home, family members, a relationship, your lifestyle, the past, or a long list of other aspects of your life. It can feel completely devastating. You might even feel like it's more than you can bear. I can relate to that; I've been there myself, many times, so I do …

The Serenity Prayer: Letting Go of What No Longer Works for YouRead More

Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, explains how she developed a need for perfection based in fear, and how she let it go. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest I've been a perfectionist about many things in my life and thankfully, have let go of most of that tendency. The need for perfection came from a massive fear of failure. And the massive fear of failure came from a deeply rooted belief that I was not lovable. If I could just be good enough, I would be worthy of love.  Of course, that wasn't in my conscious mind but that's what was going on. Being taken from my birth mother after bonding with her, …

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Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, explains why is is a bad idea to turn the other cheek, and a better idea to stand up for yourself. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest I'll tell you, straight up, I do not believe in turning the other cheek. I'm not so sure they mean it in the Bible, either, because somewhere in there it says, "an eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth." Although to be honest, that isn't the only contradiction in the Bible. Anyway, I'm not here to talk about the Bible, as I'm not a Christian—although that's not why I don't believe in turning the other cheek. The thing is, I s …

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Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, reminds us that sometimes the best thing to do is nothing. We need to lie fallow and recover. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest Day after day, she gives without reward. From deep within, she creates. We do not understand the miracle, yet New Life draws nourishment from her, springs forth from her, and she nourishes again. She is driven, relentless, compelled to be the Giver of Life. In silence, she persists, oblivious to her exhaustion, to the harsh storms and to those who would take advantage, ravaging, using, demanding. Still, day after day, she gives …

The Need to Lie Fallow: Taking a Healing BreakRead More

Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, encourages you to indulge yourself. You'll feel better — especially after you've given up so much for the sociopath. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest Abstinence makes the heart grow fungus. Okay, that's not exactly how the saying goes. But it makes my point. abstinence, noun (ab-stuh-nuhns) 1. forbearance from any indulgence of appetite, especially from the use of alcoholic beverages: eg. total abstinence. 2. any self-restraint, self-denial, or forbearance. So...that sounds like a whole lotta fun. Not. So what's the point? Well, I suppose a little s …

After the Sociopath, It’s Good to Indulge YourselfRead More

UPDATED FOR 2021. Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call Alfred. The subject line of his email was, "A moral obligation?" I'm two years removed from the brutal break-up with my ex-spath and all in all, can say I'm doing quite well and have recovered nicely! It was a LONG journey to get to the place I'm at and it's a relief to be there after two years of continual obsessing and ruminating - I've finally reached the point where I just don't care anymore. The shock of what I had in my life for 14 years has finally dissipated - the last emotion to go. That being said, I know I still have some work to do on myself as evidenced by my need to periodically check-up …

Moral dilemma: Warning the next victimRead More

Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, offers suggestions on breaking toxic relationship patterns by looking closely at your beliefs — especially those that do not support you. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest Have you found yourself getting into relationships with sociopaths or others who are toxic or unhealthy in some way? If so, you are so not alone. It's human nature to repeat patterns of behaviour, especially when it involves an unresolved emotional issue that's lying there for us to trip over again and again. It's not even a conscious choice. It's like we're on auto-pilot with old tapes p …

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Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, asks you to think carefully about who is really the most important person in your life. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest Who is the most important person in your life? Your husband? Your girlfriend? Your best friend? Your mom or dad? Your child? A sports or celebrity hero? If you're like many people, there is probably an extensive list of possibilities and you'll have to think about the question very carefully, trying to weigh up which one comes out on top. And if you're like many people, you won't even have the correct answer on the list. That answer, my …

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Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, advises that it's always important to honour, respect and love yourself, despite what you've endured from the sociopath. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest My last article, After the Sociopath, Honor Your Perfect Spirit, was about the ways in which you might be hurting yourself and neglecting your Spirit. Although it isn't essential, you might want to have a peek at that post before reading this one, as they fit together rather well. I ended it with these words: "Please. Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Honour, respect and love yourself. It is what …

After the Sociopath, Honour, Respect and Love YourselfRead More