Recovery from a sociopath

Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, explains how to overcome negative messages from the past, even from your parents, and improve yourSelf worth. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest Most of us have stories about the rotten things people have told us about ourselves. Or rather, what they believe to be the truth about us. And this is no more true than if you've been dealing with sociopaths. It's one of their tactics; they find any little chink in the armor, any small weakness or insecurity, and they pick away at it with demeaning, diminishing comments that you believe because you love them and trust their …

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Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, encourages you to find small joys in your life that will help you heal from the sociopath. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest Life after the devastation caused by a sociopath can leave you feeling like you don't have the time or energy for anything that feels good. Joy? Happiness? A little treat now and then? Forget it. Even worse, you might be feeling like you don't deserve any of that. Ouch. You could even feel guilty for any bits of happiness that show up. Extra big ouch. You're not alone. All of that is completely normal after a sociopath has torn through …

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Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, explains an empowering concept — even when you feel like you're being pressured or forced to behave in a certain way, in truth, you choose your actions. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest Although control issues can happen between people of any gender, let's just use the example of a husband ("Tom") who "won't let" his wife ("Jane") see certain people, wear certain clothing or go somewhere that doesn't meet with his approval. It is important to remember always that you choose your actions, and other people have only as much control over you as you give them. Therefore, T …

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Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, explains that you are your most valuable asset, so it's up to you to take care of yourself. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest I would imagine that if you've been dealing with a sociopath, self-care might have gone out the window. When you're doing your best just to get through the day, and often helping your children with their struggles, too, the last thing that's on your mind is making sure your own needs are met. On top of that, it could well be that during your time with the sociopath, you've become conditioned to believe that you don't matter. Your …

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Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, explains that all your choices come from fear or love, although sometimes you need to look beneath the surface of your thoughts to see it. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest It is said that everything we think and do comes from one of two places: Love or Fear. I used to dispute this. I figured it was rubbish. But in the 30 years or so since first hearing it, I've been putting this theory to the test and I have to admit, it is the truth. When I take an honest look at my words, my reactions, and my choices, everything is rooted in one of these two emotions. It's …

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Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, writes that for years, she went from one sociopath-induced catastrophe to another. It all changed when she decided, "I will stop letting fear stop me." Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest This picture? It's a self-portrait that I did at about 2 a.m. one awful night while I was in a toxic, messy relationship with a sociopath (who turned out to be a crack addict, which explained the violence, mood swings and general insanity, but how I didn't see it, I'll never know. Love is blind, deaf and incredibly stupid, I suppose). Anyway, that scribbled drawing gives you a …

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Editor's note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, writes that even though a sociopath has created havoc in your life, you always have a chance to begin again. It's up to you to take it. Read more about Liberty. By Liberty Forrest Have you ever wished for a second chance? A clean slate or a fresh start? Chances are you have. I know I certainly have. It was largely due to the disasters created by sociopaths, whether directly or as a result of the toxicity they had caused in my childhood and younger adult life, and the stupid choices I made. Yeah, I know that's harsh and I'm sure I'd never say that about anyone else in the same …

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By Joanie Bentz, B.S., M.Ed., CCBP, BC Our bodies are equipped with many hormones that act as “chemical messengers” to the brain. When these chemicals are released, cellular changes occur that can affect your wellbeing. Four of them — endorphins, oxytocin, dopamine and serotonin — could be considered “happy hormones” because they help us feel good. During and after narcissistic abuse, many of the “feel good” chemicals are suppressed as a result of constant psychological and/or physical attack, which leads to a state of hypervigilance or “fight or flight.” Restoring your happy hormones helps you recover. Chronic traumatization rewires the brain and body Most survivors of narcissistic abus …

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UPDATED FOR 2021. Why do we escape one sociopathic partner, only to be hooked by a sociopath again? It happens. A lot. Here's an example: A reader first joined Lovefraud in 2008, as she was scrambling to get away from a man who she thought was her true love, but turned out to be a sociopath. She read Lovefraud articles and posted comments for a couple of years, and then moved on. Six years later, she sent me an email with the subject line, "I'm back." She'd become involved with another sociopath. "How could I be so stupid?" she wrote. "And this time is much much much much worse than the last." Another sociopath Why does this happen? Why do we get rid of one problem person, only …

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