Archive for September, 2014

Why I wrote, ‘Entangled’

By Natalie Monroe

natalie bookDivorced after thirty years and unsure about my future, my confidence level was at an all-time low.

Alone for the first time in my life and living in Florida, I felt isolated, but too scared to get back into the dating scene. Luckily, I didn’t have to.

Only three months on my own, an old classmate through the high school website contacted me. I remembered him right away. “Daniel Weaver” (not his real name) one of the popular boys and someone who never had an interest in me. Taking a chance, I agreed to meet him in New York, on my next trip home.

Good-looking and charming, he said all the right words to make … Read more con men swindle £220,000 from women

match james richards 3tMonty Emu, 28 and Adewunmi Nusi, 37, both claimed to be a middle-aged man named “James Richards.” The  two men used the same fake profile to troll  for vulnerable women who would fall for “James Richards'” sob story.

Suzanne Hardman was one of the women who got duped by the scam. She said that after they had been communicating for about 11 months, “James Richards” told her that his dead father had a frozen account in India with £1.5 m in it, but he needed money to go there to access it.  He also told her that he intended to sell a number of properties owned by his father. She got tricked into paying out £174,000.

Emu … Read more

The critical thinking skills and instincts he tried to erode ended up saving my life

Spath TalesEditor’s note: This story is from a Lovefraud reader whom we’ll call “Eve2014.”

I have what is known as Narcissistic Victim Syndrome, and have suffered from it since I was narcissistically abused* by my father, who was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder.

I have been diligently and continuously working on myself in therapy for many years, with a slew of diagnoses that are all incorrect. It is only because of my involvement with a psychoanalytic therapist who behaved like a sociopath,** that I have reached the depths of emotional devastation and worked like a demon to solve the mystery.

I cannot say whether Dr. X is a sociopath, psychopath, or narcissist, as I am not qualified to diagnose, … Read more

Lovefraud Female Sociopath Survey – please share what you know

Outraged blonde woman  with arms crossed on white backgroundDo you know a woman or girl who you believe may have sociopathic traits? If you do, tell Lovefraud about her.

Most experts believe that there are more male sociopaths than female. In fact, experts estimate that there are three times as many disordered males as females.

Research about sociopaths is generally done with males. Not much is known about disordered women. So I’d like to gather data about female sociopaths for a new book that explains what they are really like.

I’m looking for input from Lovefraud readers who have been involved with female sociopaths in any of the following capacities:

  • Spouse or ex-spouse
  • Romantic partner
  • She is your mother
  • She is your stepmother
  • She is your
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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: Sociopathic wife determines what husband is ‘allowed’ to do

 Editor’s Note: This letter to Lovefraud was submitted by a Lovefraud reader whom we’ll call “Friend’s Keeper.”

I am writing this about a friend who I am trying to help who is clearly involved with a sociopath. My friend is a male, married to a sociopathic woman. Her acts and behavior are really unbelievable unless you see for yourself.

What he’s ”˜allowed’

She takes his entire paychecks (salary plus state pension totaling $14,000/mo), and puts him on a $100/mo allowance, which he gets only if he’s good, while she takes the rest. She convinces him it’s all for him. He’s only allowed out of the house to go to work, and she times him on when he gets … Read more

Actress Kerry Washington raises awareness of financial abuse

Actress Kerry Washington, who stars in the TV show Scandal, is appearing in a public service announcement to draw attention to the issue of financial abuse in domestic violence situations.

“It’s the reason so many people stay,” Washington says in an interview with Huffington Post.

Read: Kerry Washington sheds light on an invisible kind of domestic abuse, on

Washington’s TV commercial is for the “Purple Purse” fundraising effort, an initiative of the Allstate Foundation.

“In 98% of all domestic violence cases, financial abuse helps keep victims trapped in the abusive relationships,” according … Read more

Research shows smart, psychopathic business managers may be able to conceal their disorder

dv1867045When Carolyn Bates was an undergraduate attending the University of Hudddersfield in England, her final-year project for her psychology degree turned out to be groundbreaking research into the links between psychopathy and intelligence.

According to Science Daily, Bates said that she was intrigued by research that showed while one percent of the population were categorized as psychopaths, the figure rose to three percent in the case of business managers. “I thought that intelligence could be an explanation for this, and it could be a problem if there are increased numbers of psychopaths at a high level in business,” she said.

After administering a number of tests to 50 participants, Bates concluded that those with higher IQs had sufficient … Read more

Sociopaths range from sleazy to serial killer

Lovefraud recently received the following email from a reader whom we’ll call “Jason.”

My best friend of 20 years I believe is a sociopath. It’s very sad because you want to give a person the benefit of the doubt, but after awhile it becomes apparent. He displays all the characteristics of the sociopath. I’m smart, but I can’t convince myself with 100% certainty that he’s a sociopath (maybe most people can’t.) It’s hard to reconcile with it. Is there any advice you can give me?

Yes, Jason. First I’ll give the somewhat easy explanation; then I’ll give the more technical explanation.

Cluster of traits and behaviors

The first thing to understand is that sociopaths are not all the … Read more

Wife says she was a ‘pawn’ in alleged $22.5 million McGill University hospital kickback scheme

Pamela Porter wants to tell the world that she knew nothing of her husband’s involvement in an alleged $22.5 million kickback scheme over the McGill University Health Centre’s new superhospital in Montreal, Quebec, Canada. So she has turned herself in to Montreal authorities.

Porter and her husband, Dr. Arthur Porter, were arrested in late May of last year while travelling from their home in the Bahamas through Panama. She spent almost 10 weeks in Panamanian and Quebec jails before getting out on bail, while her husband is fighting extradition and remains in Panama’s infamous La Joya prison.

Porter is due back in court September 15, 2014.

Dr. Arthur Porter’s wife calls herself ‘pawn’ in fraud case, from … Read more

The Decision’s In on Oscar Pistorius

Oscar Pistorius

Oscar Pistorius

Editor’s note: Joyce M. Short is the author of “Carnal Abuse by Deceit How a Predator’s Lies Became Rape.

By Joyce M. Short 

I watched the final decision on the cases against Oscar Pistorius at the ungodly hour of 3:30 this morning. The trial took place in South Africa, so my head bobbed as I struggled to remain conscious enough to deal with the time zone difference between Cape Town and New York City, where I live. To me, this case’s importance was just too relevant to miss!

The Judge, Thokozile Matilda Masipa, had already decided to find Pistorius not guilty of the two most serious murder offenses he was charged with. There is … Read more

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