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By April 14, 2017 25 Comments

Getting over the relationship that didn’t exist

Unhappy-couple-breaking-up sizedLovefraud recently received the following e-mail from a reader:

How do I process a relationship that had so many lies in it that I don’t know really with whom I was involved?

I miss the person I thought I knew so much, but at the same time, he was involved with someone else, and others, since at least last June. I thought he had had one affair—but not anything to the extent that it looks like now.

How do I process a relationship I never had? Was he lying the whole time acting out the “I love you’s”, the romantic comments, and the idea that we should be together? Is it all an act?

By April 13, 2017 4 Comments

When your instincts scream, “RUN!,” please listen

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 43B: No Way Out

I realize now that this was all an act. If Paul sensed I was going to leave him (and our marriage was going to dissolve on my terms, not his), he needed to do something drastic—appear to care, to accept some responsibility for our relationship, and to be committed to change. He needed to tap my empathy.

By April 12, 2017 3 Comments

Donna Andersen to speak on ‘5 Steps to Change the World’ April 29 in Odenton, Maryland

Katherine Morris

Katherine Morris

What would happen if we all knew that sociopaths existed? If we all knew the warning signs, stayed away from them, and helped those who had been targeted?

I believe we would change the world.

I will explain exactly how this could happen in a free presentation that I am giving at an event to draw attention to the Katherine Morris Military Spouse Protection Act.

Lovefraud has written frequently about the case of Katherine Morris, who met and married a U.S. Army Soldier, Isaac Goodwin. Nine months later, Kathy was dead. Authorities ruled the case suicide, but Kathy’s mother, Pastor Marguerite Morris, believes foul play may have been involved.

By April 12, 2017 1 Comments

Gunman in San Bernardino school shooting just married the victim in January

Cedric Anderson and Karen Smith.

Cedric Anderson and Karen Smith.

Cedric Anderson and Karen Smith, both 53, married on January 28, 2017, in Los Angeles, California. A month ago, Karen left him.

Monday, April 10, Anderson walked into the San Bernardino elementary school where Karen was a special needs teacher. He shot Karen, killing her and an eight-year-old boy standing behind her. Another boy was injured. Then Anderson killed himself.

“She thought he had a wonderful husband, but she found out he was not wonderful at all. He had other motives,” said Irma Sykes, Karen’s mother, according to the Daily Mail.

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By April 11, 2017 0 Comments

Con man Lasse Hartmann guilty of scamming more than 20 people out of £104,000


Lasse Hartmann (Police photo)

A British food blogger, Adanma Wokoh, thought she found her soul mate.

Her fiancé, Lars Patreus, was a multi-millionaire wine trader, formerly active in Danish Special Forces, and had provided mental coaching to the elite runner, Usain Bolt.

Actually, he was a Danish con man, Lasse Hartmann, who had recently been released from prison for scamming his own father.

Hartmann was convicted of 22 counts of fraud in Snaresbrook Crown Court in the United Kingdom. He will be sentenced on April 28.

Bride-to-be ‘discovered her entrepreneur fiance was a wine scam fraudster who duped suppliers at their £50,000 wedding and spent just £20 on her fake engagement ring’, on DailyMail.co.uk

By April 10, 2017 9 Comments

How do I recover from a manipulative friendship?

LETTERS LOGO 2Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we’ll call “Lois.”

I have no one to turn to, as I have never spoken to anyone regarding my friendship with the narcissist apart from the narc, which suited him perfectly.

This friendship was in person but I live in a different city so it was mostly on the phone and a few face to face meetings during the year. However, I was also dropped and put in the box as needed, and picked up as soon as he would leave his families’ or friends’ home and work. And I had to be there when he was ready to make contact. However, the same did not apply to him. Many times when I needed to lean on him he was not contactable.

By April 8, 2017 1 Comments

Woman charged with murdering her children’s father posts $35 million bail

Tiffany Li (San Mateo County Sheriff's Department)

Tiffany Li (San Mateo County Sheriff’s Department)

Tiffany Li, 31, of Hillsborough, California, is charged in a murder-for-hire scheme in the death of Keith Green, 27, the father of their two young daughters.

Li was released from jail yesterday after posting an unprecedented $35 million in bail. Li comes from a wealthy Chinese family, and her mother, along with family friends and associates, raised $4 million in cash and pledged 15 properties valued at $62 million. (In California, twice the bail amount must be met if property is used in lieu of cash.)

Li and Green were in a custody dispute. Friends of Green said he feared for his life.

By April 7, 2017 7 Comments

Widow loses $1 million to con man she met on Match.com

Money. HeartSix months after her husband died, and after her own treatment for breast cancer, the 75-year-old widow wanted to take her mind off of everything she’d been through. She joined Match.com.

“Edward Duffey” liked her photo. They started talking, one thing lead to another, and soon, even though they had never met, the woman started liquidating her assets so he could “invest” them.

Needless to say, she lost her money — over $1 million.

The woman certainly isn’t alone. A 2015 study by True Link Financial estimates that American seniors lose $36.48 billion per year to elder financial abuse.

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By April 6, 2017 2 Comments

With a sociopath, the promise “I’ll change” is just another con

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 43A: No Way Out

By April 5, 2017 2 Comments

Wall Street Journal explains that anyone can be conned

con manSophisticated readers of the Wall Street Journal beware: You can be conned, just like the rest of us.

The following article, by Susan Pinker, appeared in last weekend’s edition:

You can’t be fooled by a con? Don’t count on it, on WSJ.com.

The Journal doesn’t provide articles for free, so I’ll provide a summary of key points:

  • 35 million Americans fall for scams each year, according to the Federal Trade Commission.
  • One reason we fall for scams is because we are biologically programmed to trust and cooperate.
  • Research shows that we can detect a lie only about 50 percent of the time.

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