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By August 29, 2017 1 Comments

Man guilty of murdering his celebrity girlfriend who ‘fell on his hunting knife’

Robert Brian Reagan (Redondo Beach Police Dept.)

Loredana Nesci, 47, a former cop who became a lawyer and then starred in the Sundance Channel TV show Loredana, Esq., was found dead in July 2015.

Her boyfriend, Robert Brian Reagan, 53, was charged in her murder. Reagan claimed she assaulted him and he was defending himself.

The court didn’t buy it. He was found guilty of her murder.

Boyfriend breaks down as he is found guilty of murdering reality show lawyer ‘when she fell on his hunting knife’ as they argued at home, on DailyMail.co.uk.

Posted in: Media sociopaths
By August 28, 2017 6 Comments

When women ‘of a certain age’ meet sociopaths

Photo by Free Digital Images.

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following email from a woman whom we’ll call “Annamaria17.” Donna Andersen responds below.

I met the SP in 2006 and he was a supervisor for electric utility company where I live. Due to a power outage he was the Environmental Rep and came to my home.  He had just moved here from out of state and I immediately fell for him.  We had lunch the next day and that was when I found out he was married.  Unhappily of course.

By August 26, 2017 1 Comments

How to spot an abusive relationship before it gets bad

Are there warning signs that a romantic relationship will turn abusive? Emphatically YES!! Lovefraud has been saying this for years, and Dr. Dina McMillan, a social psychologist, agrees.

A Lovefraud reader sent me the above video of a TEDx Canberra presentation by Dr. McMillan. She says that about one in three teenage girls and women endure physical or sexual abuse from a romantic partner at least once in their lives. That adds up to 1.16 billion people. And it doesn’t count those who suffer emotional and psychological abuse, but no physical abuse.

By August 25, 2017 0 Comments

How many stars will you give our Lovefraud webinars?

I am so proud of all our Lovefraud webinars. All of the instructors have done a great job. We offer a wide range of information and advice to help you understand, cope with and recover from your experience with a sociopath. And our webinars for mental health professionals offer continuing education credits.

If you’ve ever taken any of our courses, they are still available to you. To watch them again, just log in!

A few months ago, we switched the delivery platform for the courses. In the process, we lost all of our customer ratings. So if you participated in any of our webinars previously, I’d love your feedback. You can rate the courses from one to five stars, and you can also leave a comment.

By August 24, 2017 4 Comments

Using “projection,” Sociopaths accuse you of being manipulative and unethical, while they play the saint or victim

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

Chapter 51B: The Earthquake Strikes

By August 23, 2017 1 Comments

My First Unsuspecting Year in My Marriage to an Exploiter

By Eleanor Cowan

With a sparkling wedding ring on my finger, I’d claimed a much-desired new identity – no longer the binge-drinking daughter of an alcoholic mother who’d taken her own life, no longer the thrice-raped young woman drowning in shame, but instead newly married to a handsome, highly educated university student. I’d begun a whole new chapter of life.

Still, I noticed things. Little things that I dismissed. That summer of 1973, after my regular work hours at the library, I waitressed part time for the extra cash to pay for my fall university courses in Paris. While I noted my husband’s five-year high stack of unpaid student loans, I decided that his finances were none of my business.

By August 22, 2017 0 Comments

Maybe this tune should be the ‘Sociopath Song’?

The Brothers Osborne are a hit country band that took home a couple of Academy of Country Music awards this year for Vocal Duo of the Year and New Vocal Duo of the Year.

Their most recent hit single is called, It Ain’t My Fault. A Lovefraud reader suggests that it could be a theme song for sociopaths. What do you think?


By August 21, 2017 7 Comments

7 steps to breaking emotional ties with a sociopath

If you’re like most people who read Lovefraud, you may know, or suspect, that the person who is creating havoc in your life is a sociopath. Whether the offending individual is a romantic partner, parent, another family member or a friend, he or she checks all, or most of, the boxes of the sociopath checklist.

You know the individual is bad for your emotional and psychological health, your wallet, and perhaps your safety. Still, you may struggle to break free.

Sometimes there are financial or legal issues that make it difficult to escape. But often the ties that bind are emotional.

By August 19, 2017 6 Comments

Lovefraud Survey: How did you deal with a female sociopath?

I am currently working on a book about female sociopaths. I’ve collected a lot of data about the experiences of Lovefraud readers with disordered women — perhaps you completed my previous survey.

One of the topics I’d like to address in the book is how to deal with this type of person. So I ask you: If you have, or had, a female sociopath in your life, how did you escape, cope or move on? What techniques or strategies did you use to manage destructive behavior or get the person out of your life?

I’m looking for information in the context of any type of relationship:

By August 18, 2017 10 Comments

I didn’t want to admit my husband was a sociopath; now I realize how blind I was

Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader who posts as “rosered.”

Dear Donna,

I have been a follower of your website since  last year. That was when, after four years of mental anguish, trying to understand inexplicable behavior, praying for my children (and myself), financial crisis, and wondering what it was that I was doing so wrong, I finally left my husband.

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