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By | October 17, 2017 6 Comments

Cathryn Gorospe of Arizona bails out her felon friend and ends up dead

Cathryn Gorospe (Deer Valley Unified School District)

I can just imagine how this happened. Charlie Malzahn, 27, of Williams, Arizona, pleaded with his goodhearted friend. Could she please, please, please help him out? He’s been arrested — he probably said the charges are bogus — and he needs to get out of jail. He promises to turn over a new leaf.

Cathryn Gorospe, 44, of Glendale, Arizona, who was a kindergarten teacher, opened her heart and her wallet. Then she went missing and Malzahn took her car and credit cards.

Gorospe’s body was located last Friday. Malzahn, who led police on a car chase, is back in jail.

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Posted in: Media sociopaths
By | October 16, 2017 2 Comments

9 Questions to help you discern if your caring, helpful partner is faking it

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She makes you drinks and home-cooked meals. He cuts your lawn and fixes your car. Your new romantic interest just can’t seem to do enough for you. You never felt so cared for. It must be love!

Maybe it is. Or maybe it’s a sociopath who is trying to soften you up for later exploitation.

I’ve often written on Lovefraud that sociopaths do not have the ability to be caregivers. Many readers find this confusing — the sociopath they know was always doing things for them. So let me explain.

First, some background.

Three components of romantic love

The core of sociopathic personality disorders is an inability to love. What, exactly does this mean?

Scientists have determined … Read more

By | October 14, 2017 2 Comments

‘Dirty John’ – LA Times posts series on psychopath John Meehan and his last love fraud victim

John Meehan (California Department of Corrections)

Two days after being released from jail, John Meehan, a serial con artist, met his last victim. Of course, Meehan said nothing to the new woman, Debra Newell, about his history of stealing from and terrorizing his romantic partners.

Debra’s kids didn’t like Meehan, but she was in love and didn’t listen to their warnings. Then things got nasty.

Read this compelling six-part series by Christopher Goffard:

Dirty John, on LA

You can also listen to a podcast about the series:

Essential California: ‘Dirty John,’ the final chapter, on

Links sent by a Lovefraud reader.… Read more

By | October 13, 2017 2 Comments

What criminal profiler John Kelly says Stephen Paddock’s motive was in the Las Vegas shooting

Criminal profiler John Kelly

By John Kelly, Profiler

Psychological Autopsy

The first thing to do when looking at a complicated mental problem is to examine and eliminate any physical problems.

Before getting into the psychological and pharmacological dynamics of a persons murderous behavior, one needs to eliminate any physical precursors to such behavior.  Paddock’s autopsy should determine any brain abnormalities such as tumors or cancer. We have seen this play a role in a similar mass murder, Charles Whitman, the Texas Tower Sniper, who shot 16 people from a high vantage point in 1966.


Charles Whitman, on

Paddock’s autopsy did not reveal any brain abnormalities. After eliminating any physical precursors to Paddock’s murderous … Read more

By | October 13, 2017 0 Comments

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, to host free online support group on Oct 22nd at 5 pm EST.

Mary Ann GlynnJoin our free online video/voice online support group Sunday, Oct. 22, 2017 at 5 pm EST (earlier time to accommodate European time).  If you’d like to join go to and let us know by filling out contact form at the bottom of the home page.   Please include your Skype user name so it can be confirmed and added to the group at the time of the call.  Do this even if you have joined the group in the past.  If you cannot get a Skype user name for some reason please state that.

Share your struggles and get feedback, support, and hope from others who get it.  Hope to see you there!
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By | October 13, 2017 0 Comments

‘Alertas Rojas de Estafa Amorosa’ ha sido seleccionado para ‘Mes Indie’ en Amazon!

Amazon quiere celebrar el fenómeno de la autopublicación por todo lo alto, por lo que estan organizando el “Mes Indie”, una promoción especial de libros Kindle en español que celebran mundialmente del 1 al 31 de octubre.

“Alertas rojas de estafa amorosa — 10 señales de que estás saliendo con un sociópata”, por Donna Andersen, ha sido seleccionado para la promoción.

Este libro revela, por primera vez, las tácticas de los depredadores sociales que buscan relaciones sentimentales no por amor, sino para explotación. Este libro explica cómo los sociópatas seducen a sus víctimas, por qué es difícil escapar de las relaciones, y cómo las personas pueden protegerse.

Durante todo el mes de octubre, la promoción “Mes Indie” ofrecerá … Read more

By | October 12, 2017 5 Comments

A sociopath’s deceit and cruelty is boundless

Husband Liar Sociopath

Every week, a chapter of my book, “Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post.

I’ve also just released a new ebook titled Narcissists, SOCIOPATHS & Wolves: Lessons From Little Red Riding Hood. (Just click here to find it on Narcissists SOCIOPATHS & Wolves.)

Chapter 53:  The Puzzle Pieces Finally Fit

Knowing my fear of financial ruin—I was now over fifty years old and had not worked full-time in almost two decades—Paul pushed every financial button … Read more

By | October 11, 2017 0 Comments

Unearthing my repressed memory of being drugged and raped

By Eleanor Cowan

A young woman from my building banged on my door at 3 a.m. “It’s me! Darlene!” Soon on the couch and sipping the hot tea I made for us both, she wept uncontrollably. “I know what happened,” the twenty-four-year-old cried as we waited for the police to arrive.

“I know what happened. He ordered me a night cap at the bar while I was in the washroom. I don’t remember going to his place. I woke up undressed and in pain. Oh! I’m lucky I escaped.”

“Wow, a nightcap knocked you out like that?” I asked, tucking my shawl around her shaking form.

“No, not the drink but the drug dropped into it when I … Read more

By | October 10, 2017 0 Comments

Oklahoma man kept his stepdaughter as a sex slave for 19 years

Henri Piette

Henri Michele Piette, 62, was arrested in Mexico and accused of kidnapping and raping his stepdaughter, starting when she was 11 years old and continuing for 19 years.

The victim said she was raped, beaten with baseball bats, stabbed, choked unconscious and shot while with Piette.

Rosalynn Michelle McGinnis, now 33, escaped last year in Mexico and made her way to the U.S. Embassy with eight of her children.  She told People magazine that she wants the world to know what happened and she wants justice to be served.

Arrest made in bizarre rape case, after woman tells FBI stepfather forced her to be wife when she was a child and held her captive for 19 Read more

Posted in: Media sociopaths
By | October 9, 2017 2 Comments

5 reasons why antisocials are great actors

Man with maskLast week Lovefraud published an article by Eleanor Cowan entitled, When sociopaths use righteous indignation to exert control. In it, Eleanor relates how her fiance twisted her comment about a pedophile priest into an opportunity to establish his moral superiority over her. The fiance, of course, was disordered and a pedophile himself, but Eleanor didn’t know it at the time. He convinced her that he was a righteous, religious man.

A Lovefraud reader commented on the post:

This article really is a perfect example of how they manipulate you – what I want to know is HOW is it they are so believable? How come they are such good actors?? I would think the average non sociopathic

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