A Lovefraud reader who goes by the name "new_day" knows the next target her sociopathic ex has lined up. New_day and the sociopath divorced when their son was one year old. He then left the next girlfriend before their baby's first birthday. He just proposed to the current girlfriend. It really bothers new_day to sit back and watch. She wants to warn the woman, but doesn't dare, because then she will be back in the drama. Here's what new_day would like to say to her ex-husband's next target: Do you catch yourself wondering why he tells those little white lies; I mean about things that aren't even worth lying about? Or why he is so secretive about things that aren't even worth lying ab …
LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: Alone. Exhausted. Lonely. Stressed. Stuck.
Editor's note: This letter was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call “Billyjean.” All names in this letter have been changed. Donna Andersen will comment on this story tomorrow. When I met "Joseph," I had been through my fair share of heartbreak. I was a single mum with a five-year-old little girl, who had little contact with her dad, a Swedish national, and, as I was from overseas, I had no family here. No grandma and grandpa for her, no aunties or uncles. I had to be everything. I did my best to give her a happy home. Dating as a single parent is tricky. You have to consider carefully when is the right time to introduce a prospective new partner to your little one …
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National teen relationship survey reveals dating abuse common
The National Institute of Justice sponsored the National Survey on Teen Relationships and Intimate Violence, which was conducted by a group at the University of Chicago. The survey revealed that nearly 25 million adolescents consider themselves victims of some sort of abuse and 23 million consider themselves perpetrators of abuse. Bruce Taylor, one of two lead researchers for the survey, said the overall abuse figures were higher than previous national studies of dating abuse, revealing “the startlingly widespread nature of the problem." Abuse among dating teens pervasive, fed survey finds, from The Detroit News. …
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It is so painful to know that the whole relationship was not real
Editor's Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call “Terry Ann.” Other names in this post have also been changed. He is as romantic and alluring as his designer label name sounds. I met “PQ” on Millionaire Match.com. His profile states he was born in Milan, Italy, I wasn't seeking a millionaire. I wanted a man with a respectable job, status, and stability. We had a whirlwind romance in a two-week period of time before he suddenly had to move from Bradenton, Florida to Couer D'Alene, Idaho. I clearly remember his first phone call to me. His accent was sexy, romantic, and sweet. Within moments, he boldly asked me personal questions, but he was so nice, …
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‘The Stir’ posts about warning signs of a secret life
Donna Andersen was recently interviewed for an article on "The Stir," part of Cafemom.com. They include: Your gut is telling you something's wrong He disappears or travels a lot He has unreasonable boundaries He lies and keeps secrets The author, Kiri Blakeley, did a great job.You'll want to read the story: 10 scary signs your man is living a secret life, on TheStir.Cafemom.com. …
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Out of the pain of a failed relationship some good may come
While torturing herself by rehashing the details of her second broken marriage over and over again, Jill Gross heard amidst the noise a gentler voice inside her whisper, “Be patient. The most painful relationships can be the best teachers.” After she heard that voice, she began to let herself consider that, just maybe, this heinous experience was serving a benevolent purpose she had yet to discover. And that's when the learning began. How Painful Relationships Can Be The Best Teachers, from tiny Buddha. Link supplied by Mary Ann Glynn. …
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How could Darren Vann, suspected in multiple Indiana murders, have been considered ‘low risk’?
Not one, but two likely serial killers have been in the news recently. First there was Jesse Matthew, charged in the abduction of Virginia student Hannah Graham, whose body has now been identified. Police have linked Matthew to at least one other crime, and are examining cases of more dead and missing women in Virginia. Then there is Darren Vann, of Gary, Indiana. Vann was arrested in the killing of 19-year-old Afrikka Hardy, whose body was found in a Motel 6 in Hammond, Indiana. Vann confessed to the crime, and led police to the bodies of six other women. All seven of these murders took place after Vann was released from a Texas prison on July 5, 2013. There may be more. Prior to …
‘Expert’ explaining psychopath vs. sociopath reveals the truth: He’s clueless
A Lovefraud reader sent me a link to the following article that appeared on Huffington Post last month: Psychopath Vs. Sociopath: What's the difference? It was written by Robert Siciliano, a speaker on personal security and identity theft, and a corporate media consultant. He's also the author of four books, including 99 Things You Wish You Knew Before Your Identity Was Stolen. I hope Siciliano knows more about identity theft than he knows about psychopaths and sociopaths. Because he knows nothing about these personality disorders. What he has written does more to spread misinformation than educate people. What's wrong with the story? Let me count the errors: 1. "Sociopathy and …
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Research reveals men in domestic violence suffer similar effects as women
Although most reported domestic abuse is committed by men against women, a growing body of research has picked up on the prevalence and significance of domestic violence perpetrated against men, says research published in Psychology of Men & Masculinity. Men who are abused by their female partners can suffer significant psychological trauma, such as post-traumatic stress disorder, depression and suicidal thoughts, according to two papers published by the American Psychological Association. British researcher Anna Randle, PsyD, lead author of a paper summarizing two decades of research says that a lack of reliable data has led to some confusion in literature on domestic violence …
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My ex-husband and his mother both have narcissistic personality disorder
Editor's Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call “Mary Agnes.” I married a Narcissist and am SO glad we are not together anymore! It took stupid love-blind me a few years to work out what my Narcissist-ex husband was doing. In short, he was stealing money from my family wealth over the years and giving it to his mother to spend on first class travel, cars, paintings, clothes, etc. I spoke to a psychologist who informed me that it was likely that his mother and he were both narcissistic personality disorders, plus he was co-dependent on his mother. He stole to feed his mother, both of them without empathy. In fact, his mother was really nasty to me t …
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