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For the holidays, give yourself the gift of honoring your experience

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How do you get through the season of joy and hope when a lying, destructive, individual has wreaked havoc in your life? First, be gentle with yourself. You are a normal, caring, person. Perhaps you wanted to love and be loved, as all normal people do. Perhaps you felt sorry for the individual and wanted to help. Your intentions were honorable, but the exploiter took advantage of your humanity. Second, honor your experience. What does that mean? It means accepting that it happened. Much of the pain and confusion of tangling with a sociopath comes from not wanting to believe that these individuals are what they are, and they do what they do. Accepting that yes, they exist, and yes, you were …

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Divorcing a Narcissist: Tina Swithin, author of OneMomsBattle.com, offers “Advice from the Battlefield”

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Professor who murdered his wife asks for money to start over, but maybe he shouldn’t have

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Ten years ago, on Dec. 22, 2006, Rafael Robb, of King of Prussia, Pennsylvania, bludgeoned his wife, Ellen Gregory Robb, to death as she wrapped Christmas presents. He pleaded guilty and was sentenced to 10 years in prison. Robb, a former University of Pennsylvania economics professor and an expert in game theory, was supposed to be released in January. A civil suit awarded $124.26 million to the couple's daughter, who was 12 when her mother was killed. Robb listed assets of approximately $3 million in the civil lawsuit. This week, Robb petitioned the court for $100,000 of his  assets to set up a new life after prison. But in a hearing, he mentioned an account in France, which he had not di …

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After 10 years of abuse, New Jersey woman is found dead; police search for her husband

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State Police are searching for Jeremiah Monell, 32, of Commercial Township in southern New Jersey, who allegedly killed his wife. Tara O'Shea-Watson, 35, endured 10 years of beatings and abuse, friends and relatives say in an article in the Press of Atlantic City. Monell would "freak out" on his wife if she talked to family members, the victim's friend said. Over the past few months, according to the friend, O'Shea-Watson finally decided to enforce a restraining order and filed for divorce. She was found unconscious and unresponsive in her home Monday morning. State Police continue to search woods for Commercial Township murder suspect, on PressOfAtlanticCity.com. …

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Husband takes his new wife shopping on their honeymoon, buys her expensive gifts, and then she asks for divorce

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from an American man, whom we'll call "Brad." He met a Moroccan woman who lived in the U.K. We'll call her "Fatima." Fatima and I had unforgettable memories, which would be the base of any marriage. We laughed, we joked, we traveled, we spent so much time together. I took her with me to Morocco with our group going to Casablanca because I really liked her and wanted to spend time with her. We enjoyed lots of moments together, and she helped me with business, religion, and talked about all areas of life with me. She was such a great friend ”¦ easy going, fun, down to earth ”¦ relaxed ”¦ and it seemed like she really wanted to be with me …

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Steven Dean Gordon, already a sex offender, guilty of murdering 4 women while wearing a GPS tracker

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  Prosecutors in Orange County, California, started calling him "Jaws" because he was such a vicious predator. Last week, Steven Dean Gordon, 47, was convicted of abducting and killing four random women in Santa Ana, between 2013 and 2014. Gordon was already a convicted sex offender. His partner in crime, Franc Cano, was also a sex offender. Cano will be tried separately. Both men were under supervision after being convicted in separate cases of lewd and lascivious acts with a child under 14. Both men were wearing GPS tracking devices. In fact, it was the data from the tracking devices that connected them to the disappearances of the four women, who were all prostitutes. After …

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How psychopaths use our biology against us

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Invariably, once we realize we've been conned by a psychopath, this person has lied to us from the very beginning, and we fell for all of it, we ask why? Why did we believe? Why did we trust? The short answer is that we did what we, as social animals, are biologically designed to do. Human beings have evolved over millennia to live in community, and trust is the glue that holds us together. I read The Moral Molecule the source of love and prosperity, by Paul J. Zak. Zak spent 10 years researching a brain chemical called oxytocin and its role in human behavior. He says oxytocin inspires trust; trust is connected to morality; and morality is connected to the survival of the human …

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Derek Alldred scams eight women of hundreds of thousands of dollars and skips sentencing hearing

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Derek Alldred, a con artist who claimed to be everything from a doctor to a Navy SEAL to an investment banker for the Royal Bank of Scotland, has scammed at least eight women out of hundreds of thousands of dollars. His most recent victim,  a woman from Arizona, met Alldred on a dating site. Alldred stole her jewelry and pawned it, then pleaded no contest to the crime. Alldred pleaded no contest to theft charges and was supposed to be sentenced on December 13 in Minneapolis, Minnesota. He never showed up for the hearing, and his victims fear that Alldred will just find more targets. Watch the video: Swindler exposed by KARE 11 is on the run, on KARE11.com. Here's a detailed, …

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“You’re Too Sensitive”–Just One Way Sociopaths Shirk Responsibility

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Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 35A: The Weeds Always Win When Paul and Anne-Marie found themselves with some available time, they hung out a shingle for their own consulting company—A-M-P Consulting Solutions. About this time we discovered that, although Daniel was an exceptionally bright child, he had some severe learning challenges and developmental delays that would mean years of work with specialists, daily t …

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I will never forget how he looked at me – I felt I was standing in front of the devil

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a woman whom we'll call Gemma, who lives in England. Names have been changed. In August 2015 I was contacted on one of the pen pal websites by a guy named Brad, from a village in Michigan. Brad is a 35 year old veteran who works part time as a mechanic. He is also a village council trustee, with ambitions to become a village president one day. We started talking on a daily basis, He was very charming and entertaining and seemed very reliable, always responding to my messages almost instantly. Brad told me that he was married for the second time and his wife was pregnant. He said that although his current wife was better than the …

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